(11-06-2011, 01:58 PM)unity100 Wrote: i will stop discussing with you at this point. i dont want to make you respond to long lengthy posts you dont seem to respond to.
How convenient.
A person who genuinely cares about others, wouldn't mind expressing that caring, in a way that conveys caring to the other person, taking into consideration the other person's state of being.
If I visit a foreign country with different customs, I will take the time to learn those customs, and be sure to integrate some of those social niceties, so that those people understand that I do care about them.
I wouldn't stay obstinate and refuse to make a few minor adjustments.
(11-06-2011, 02:02 PM)abridgetoofar Wrote: Wouldn't asking someone to express themselves in another way besides exactly how they feel they should express themselves be asking them to "fake it?"
Not if they are willing to grow, learn and change.
A man yells at his wife, and his wife feels hurt and cries. She tells her husband how she feels and asks him to quit yelling. If the husband cares about her feelings, he will quit yelling. That isn't faking. That's changing.
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