Caring/Compassion/Sensitivity/Tact vs Lying/Faking

[Monica]

you cannot use blue ray, if you are moving with negative forms of orange/yellow. for, blue ray is not found in negative spectrum as we are told.

Really? I remember green being the ray that was missing in the polarized STS entity. Can you provide a quote?

the use of blue in negative

These statements seem to contradict each other. You just said blue ray is not found in negative, then you said it is used in negative. Can you clarify please?

in regard to information and correspondence, takes the form of lying/misrepresenting information and correspondence in accordance for the desired manipulation of the entity, and this generally takes the form of telling the entity what it desires, or fears, or whatever is going to affect it at that particular point.

Negative use of blue ray might also take the form of telling the truth, but in a cruel way.

If I walked up to a horribly disfigured person, say someone who had been severely burned or otherwise maimed, and said, "Your body is ugly and gross! You might scare children who think you're a monster!" I'd be telling the truth, but my action is STS because it's cruel, insensitive, and serves no purpose other than to hurt.

blunt honesty does not have a place in negative spectrum.

I disagree. I just provided an example.

leave aside honesty.

Are you saying STS entities cannot be honest? I strongly disagree. Honesty can be used to hurt and manipulate.

If I walk up to a hugely obese woman eating a donut and say, "You are so gross! and look at you eating that sugary, greasy donut! don't you know that is what's making you so fat!" that is STS. Why? Because the obese person didn't ask for my advice. She most likely already knows the donut is contributing to her obesity. She didn't need me to tell her that. Therefore my action was a violation of her free will, it served no constructive purpose, and it was cruel.

That obese woman might, eventually, get tired of cruel comments like that and do something about her weight. But again, there are already plenty of people ready and willing to provide those cruel comments, whether out of ignorance or malice. That is the task of STS entities.

MY task is to tell the obese woman truthfully what I think, only when/if she asks. If she says, "What can I do to lose weight?" and I say, "Well, for starters, you need to quit eating donuts." then that is perfectly fine. It was honest. But it was in response to her asking for my advice.

My mom's 'honesty' affected me deeply, to the point of completely eradicating any possibility of pursuing music. Did she do the 'right' thing?

she very probably did the right thing.

No, she didn't. What she did was mean. It was cruel. That could be the 'right thing' only if she were polarizing STS.

for, if you had any desire and passion in your soul for music, you would have pursued it anyway.

Singing isn't a science. It's an art. There are many accomplished singers who don't have 'technically perfect' voices. And anyway, a child of 10 singing for fun is too young to have her voice judged. Voices change with maturity. Furthermore, my mom wasn't qualified to judge my voice anyway.

There are multiple ways to 'pursue music.' I might not have had enough desire and passion to 'do it anyway' and become a huge star, but I certainly did have enough desire and passion to sing for fun, and explore singing. My mother had no right to take that away from me.

It was mean.

and someone would already react honestly to something you have sung in that fashion because they did not like it. if you had a passion for it, you would just go over that, and keep doing it.

What you are describing is called catalyst.

Who provides catalyst?

STS entities. That is their job. That is how they serve the Creator.

An example of what you are describing is: My dad told me I was stupid. I may have had low self-esteem regarding my singing, but I knew I wasn't stupid. I had "enough desire and passion" for knowledge that I used my dad's negative catalyst as a springboard to prove myself. So in the end, I did exactly as you described: I "went over it" and did it anyway.

How are my dad's action and my mom's action any different?

They aren't. They are exactly the same.

Neither of them could possibly know whether I had the "desire and passion" to pursue those things "anyway" despite their efforts to shoot down my dreams.

The fact that I was able to rise above my dad's negative programming, but not my mom's, doesn't make either of them 'right' in what they did. Both actions were STS.

In both of those cases, their opinions were subjective. I might have had a lovely voice and mom was simply having a bad day and didn't want to hear a child expressing herself. I happen to know now that she was very depressed and any expression of joy was sure to get her agitated. So, her opinion of my singing was worthless. All it did was hurt.

My dad was simply wrong about my intelligence. He was smart in some ways, but nearly illiterate. My mom had below average intelligence and an even lower education. So neither of them were in a position to judge my intelligence.

My mom was equally unqualified to judge my singing ability.

And even if she were an accomplished opera singer, it was still cruel of her to squash my expression of joy!

In that case, she could have truthfully said something like:

"Honey, I'm so happy to hear you are interested in singing! Would you like voice lessons when you get a little older? Here, let me teach you how to breathe deeply and get the most out of your voice."

or

"Gosh, you sure seem to be enjoying singing! I'm really tired though, so could you sing in your room or outside?"

Do you see the difference? This is the STO way of speaking truth. It focuses on the positive instead of the negative.

the life already provides endless amounts of tests to provide thresholds to entities who are pursuing anything. if a person who cannot pass over the honest expression of dissatisfaction in what you do breaks your desire, then it means you actually did not really desire that enough to pursue it.

That's irrelevant. What's relevant to an STO entity is that it isn't our job to provide negative catalyst. That is the job of STS entities. They do their job well; let them do it. There is already plenty of negative catalyst. The job of STO is to radiate love.

Squashing a child's dreams or even momentary exuberance isn't STO; it's STS. No matter how you slice it.

that is no different in spiritual matters, and actually much more important. there are endless amount of stumbling blocks that wait in every step to hold people that are not really desiring/unready to move forward, from moving forward. and these can range from the attitudes of family to negative entities.

dishonesty does not provide anything. it is desirable that the interactions should be without hurt, but it is necessary that there should be honesty to directly and accurately depict the felt emotions and thoughts as they are, instead of modifying/faking/repressing/changing them.

otherwise a lot of people just keep ending up pursuing music careers while stumbling in the way because people around them were always accommodating and never honest.

I find this amusing, knowing what I know about the music industry. For every 1 musician/singer to hit the big time, there are thousands who don't. The music industry is difficult enough as it is. We don't have to worry about people with horrible voices recording songs and imposing them on us when we turn on the radio. It might happen occasionally because that particular singer had some quirk that people liked for some reason, and it got them famous. (Like Rod Stewart with his raspy voice for example) But in those cases, obviously enough people liked the voice or he wouldn't have sold so many records.

or someone singing opera with a loud voice next to you in a small compact car because he thinks when he does that people are just enchanted.

An adult singing opera in a compact car is vastly different from a child singing outside while playing. You have given an extreme example.

It's highly unlikely that an adult would have such a skewed opinion of his own voice by that time. Someone would surely have told him what his voice sounds like, by the time he's an adult.

The dreams of children should never be squashed. Children are delicate and precious. A single cruel remark can change the course of their lives.

That child with the strange art might be the next Picasso. Or, that child might just enjoy painting for fun. Either way, both have equal value.