10-13-2009, 08:07 PM
Citrine, I hope I am not sounding judgmental, as I know little about this practice in of itself, but this still seems rather service-to-self to me. It seems that you are automatically presuming you know how your partner feels about the situation, putting words into his mouth so-to-speak. In spite of your desire to benefit both parties in this practice, the wants and needs of both parties are not being taken into consideration, and it seems like it would be hard to reach the full potential of any practice if there was an underlying resentment. In my opinion, the both of you sitting down and having a very heart-to-heart talk about this is very important or the relationship could develop problems. I would recommend being totally honest with each other and not judging each other’s opinions, but working to see if there is a way to reach a mutual understanding and an increase in the love that is sacred. Once again, I hope I am not being too forward, as it is not my place to decide how to work any relationship other than my own. I simply know from experience what not getting each other’s feelings out can do to a relationship, and it isn’t good.