Question re: Tantra

[Monica]

I don't know anything about the author, but I found this very interesting:

http://www2.intent.com/marniarobinson/blog/comparing-neo-daoism-karezza


Excerpt:

Intense (conventional) orgasmic experiences may lead to altered states. But they also appear to have hidden, subconscious hangovers that interfere, over time, with intimacy. They eventually promote stagnation or relationship friction. So conventional, and even "whole-body," orgasmic approaches are not a way to increase the union between male and female...although they do unite genitals pleasurably. In short, they are a glimpse of union...perhaps...but not a path to union.

I suspect that the soul orgasm is the same goal the karezza practitioners were trying to describe. I believe it is also the experience Laozi was talking about when he used the term "angelic dual cultivation." I believe that relaxed, transcendent experiences during lovemaking will turn out to be a function of the parasympathetic nervous system (or a unique balanced state between the two systems, reflecting a special state of mind). From a scientific perspective, such experiences will have little in common with sexual performance, genital or whole-body orgasms, most tantric orgasms, or the so-called sympathetic nervous system.

The soul orgasm is an experience of “being,” not “doing,” of “merging,” not “doing to,” and of “relaxation,” not “performance.” The body registers such an experience as a profound bonding behavior, unlike either the performance-oriented genital orgasm, or its close relative, the whole-body orgasm.

Perhaps with a clearer target, and an understanding of how these different orgasms relate to the nervous system and influence our urge to bond (or not), it will be easier to choose the outcome we desire - whether we happen to be thinking in terms of karezza, Daoist lovemaking practices, or any other sacred sex tradition.