(10-09-2009, 10:34 PM)Citrine Wrote: One would think he'd appreciate being relieved of the burden of "performance anxiety", since he doesn't have to worry about my climax - but apparently that's not the case.
Oh wow, I just thought of something. Maybe what's really bothering him is the loss of an opportunity to be of service to you!
I used to have issues about receiving, until I realized that by receiving, I was allowing another person an opportunity to give. Hence, receiving is just as important as giving.
The sexual act is an amazing opportunity for both parties to both give and receive. If you are focused on doing your own thing while he does his own thing, maybe he is missing that opportunity to give to you. Could it be possible that both of you might be focusing so much on recirculating your own energies that very little is being exchanged? Just a thought!
Book suggestions (for whoever might be interested):
The Esoteric Philosophy of Love and Marriage by Dion Fortune. Deals extensively with the chakras. It was written almost a century ago, so it's not politically correct, and I haven't reread it since reading the Law of One so I'm not sure how in sync it is, but I remember it as being amazingly deep and profound.
Conscious Conception: Elemental Journey Through the Labyrinth of Sexuality
by Jeannine Parvati Baker, Frederick Baker. Powerful, rich exploration of Tantric sex from the perspective of a loving, committed relationship. Not just about conception!
Sexual Secrets by Nik Douglas and Penny Slinger. Taoist sexual practices.
All books by Mantek and Maneewan Chia.