09-13-2011, 12:53 AM
(09-12-2011, 01:46 AM)Tenet Nosce Wrote:The story of my life, Tenet.(09-11-2011, 03:50 AM)zenmaster Wrote: Or, more generally speaking.. what exactly is going on when one entity- feeling/thinking they are speaking respectfully towards another entity- is perceived by the other entity as an "attack". What responsibility does the first entity take unto itself for being the source of the perceived "attack"? Perhaps more importantly, what can an entity do to ensure that its words and intentions are not twisted to the negative against their will?
You can't guarantee that the hearer will interpret your words exactly as you hope even with face to face communication. The odds for miscommunication go up much more when you pull body language, facial expression, and tone out of the equation. The best you can do is to try and always perceive words in the kindest manner possible, respond to even the most obvious of cracks in a gracious and even manner, and hope that others follow your lead.