07-04-2011, 06:15 AM
Oh, I can so relate! I have experienced situations in which the nicer I was, the more the person resented me! My husband told me, "They are jealous of your light...your light is exposing their own darkness and it's making them uncomfortable." I think he was right.
In my experience, those people really didn't want me to be nice to them, and in fact, the more I was extra nice, the more I was imposing on their free will. Remember what Ra said about STS entities? That green ray love is very uncomfortable for them? (Actually it was said in much stronger language, but I don't remember the exact quote.) Assuming that she might actually be STS...or, more likely, just a typical mixed-polarity person who isn't ready to face her self...which is being reflected to her by you.
I wish I had an easy answer for you...but I don't. All I can do is offer a few suggestions:
Be true to yourself, but don't go out of your way to be extra nice to her. Be nice, yes, but don't fall prey to the idea that being extra nice is going to bring her around. Maybe it will, maybe it won't. So don't be attached to any outcome. Just totally accept her for who she is, while totally being firm in who you are. But being extra nice, for the purpose of getting her to change, could actually be a subtle form of manipulation; ie. trying to change her by being nice, see? Don't try to change her. Accept her for who she is. This is where she's at. BUT, at the same time, don't let her drag you down. Don't let her manipulate you either. Just be yourself, and quit letting her have any power over you. It doesn't matter if she doesn't like you...if she's jealous of you...or whatever her issue with you is. Just love and accept her, which includes loving and accepting the fact that she doesn't seem to like you. Loving and accepting HER being that way does NOT mean you let her have power over you! You must establish a boundary. This might not be physically, but might just be psychically. Put a bubble of light around you every morning before you get to work, so that your aura is strengthened and she can't penetrate it.
You might also ask yourself is there is something about her that really rubs you the wrong way, separate from the way she treats you. Her involvement in porn, maybe? I once had a customer who was a stripper. At first, I had a hard time with that. It bothered me that she stripped for married men, with no regard for their wives. It took great effort for me to see her as a person, and accept her as an other-self even though I didn't accept her actions. You might do some introspection to see if there is something like that going on here. If you can get to the root of why you are having trouble accepting her, then you can untangle your karmic ties with her, and resolve the issue of why she isn't accepting you.
In other words, if you want her to accept you, then focus on why you aren't completely accepting her, first, even if you think you are. She is mirroring something to you. Even if it seems like 99% is her fault and only 1% yours, fix your 1% first and you will be amazed at what happens.
In my experience, those people really didn't want me to be nice to them, and in fact, the more I was extra nice, the more I was imposing on their free will. Remember what Ra said about STS entities? That green ray love is very uncomfortable for them? (Actually it was said in much stronger language, but I don't remember the exact quote.) Assuming that she might actually be STS...or, more likely, just a typical mixed-polarity person who isn't ready to face her self...which is being reflected to her by you.
I wish I had an easy answer for you...but I don't. All I can do is offer a few suggestions:
Be true to yourself, but don't go out of your way to be extra nice to her. Be nice, yes, but don't fall prey to the idea that being extra nice is going to bring her around. Maybe it will, maybe it won't. So don't be attached to any outcome. Just totally accept her for who she is, while totally being firm in who you are. But being extra nice, for the purpose of getting her to change, could actually be a subtle form of manipulation; ie. trying to change her by being nice, see? Don't try to change her. Accept her for who she is. This is where she's at. BUT, at the same time, don't let her drag you down. Don't let her manipulate you either. Just be yourself, and quit letting her have any power over you. It doesn't matter if she doesn't like you...if she's jealous of you...or whatever her issue with you is. Just love and accept her, which includes loving and accepting the fact that she doesn't seem to like you. Loving and accepting HER being that way does NOT mean you let her have power over you! You must establish a boundary. This might not be physically, but might just be psychically. Put a bubble of light around you every morning before you get to work, so that your aura is strengthened and she can't penetrate it.
You might also ask yourself is there is something about her that really rubs you the wrong way, separate from the way she treats you. Her involvement in porn, maybe? I once had a customer who was a stripper. At first, I had a hard time with that. It bothered me that she stripped for married men, with no regard for their wives. It took great effort for me to see her as a person, and accept her as an other-self even though I didn't accept her actions. You might do some introspection to see if there is something like that going on here. If you can get to the root of why you are having trouble accepting her, then you can untangle your karmic ties with her, and resolve the issue of why she isn't accepting you.
In other words, if you want her to accept you, then focus on why you aren't completely accepting her, first, even if you think you are. She is mirroring something to you. Even if it seems like 99% is her fault and only 1% yours, fix your 1% first and you will be amazed at what happens.
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