07-03-2011, 07:51 PM
(07-03-2011, 01:26 AM)Conifer16 Wrote: ...I feel mortified about my post it was cringe worthy... I just wish she would chose to ignore it or accept it rather then not do anything about it... maybe there is hope for me yet.
Not doing anything / not replying / not acknowledging... Get used to it because that's the nature of the female.
On the plus side, that's good for us guys, once you grok it. Females of our species are the silent shoppers, and we are the merchandise. Picture a department store: They may pick up an article, look it over and think, Not bad, but I'll keep looking. They will put that article down, but maybe return to it later if nothing else in the store is any better. OTOH, if they say out loud, "Nope that will never work." Then they close the door for good on it. So no response is like a definite maybe.
If you are a hottie guy, then maybe some will preen and try to get your attention, but if you are more ordinary then you want to do some selling. That's where you also preen a bit (look and smell clean at least, even if you like playing the scruffy role) and ask her questions about her likes and dislikes. Be indirect, just with any kind of conversation starter, but after awhile start the questions and look at her face a lot while she answers, as if this is the most important information in the world.
Memorize enough for use later, so she will know you really listened. You now have started reeling in. If she didn't take that bait, then drop the effort for awhile or move on. As one guy proverbially said to the rejected other guy, "There are lots more fish in the sea."
