06-13-2011, 12:05 PM
I think this is the true basis of forming a memory complex. How can bazillions of people be expected to just mesh together seamlessly? Various issues will have to be aired...various personality discrepancies will have to be accepted and balanced. All the skeletons need to come out of the closet, in their various forms. It seems to me like some people would love to pretend that everything is perfect, and that a good relationship involves never disagreeing with anyone or having any sort of problems, ever. In my opinion, this is delusion and little more.
My husband says that it was when we had our first fight...and stayed together after...that he knew our relationship was strong. It's typical for us to have some huge falling out every few months (at least), usually over something stupid. We scream at each other and slam doors and throw temper tantrums, and then when it's all out we observe the pieces and start sticking them back together again, because we value our relationship more than our pride. When we fight, I do not think "Ugh! I can no longer be with this person!" I think "This is helping us find out new things about each other, so we can get along better in the future." A world without any sort of conflict...I think I'd run away from that as quickly as possible, because it would be fake.
I think that a lot of people, especially wanderers and the like, are experiencing a great deal of sensitivity right now. Just look at my little outburst a month or so back. I got so angry and offended over nothing. The energy is so extremely high right now, I feel constantly on edge. A lot of hidden truth is coming to light, and some of it is hard to digest. Just about everyone I've talked to is experiencing the same thing...emotions running amok, tempers flaring, and a growing inability to express anything through words. Perhaps a bit of understanding and tolerance on all sides is what is needed most. This is the middle of the storm that will usher in a new way of life. It's supposed to be stormy! S**t happens...without it, we'd all still be sitting in caves talking in grunts.
This is the explosion that forms the star.
My husband says that it was when we had our first fight...and stayed together after...that he knew our relationship was strong. It's typical for us to have some huge falling out every few months (at least), usually over something stupid. We scream at each other and slam doors and throw temper tantrums, and then when it's all out we observe the pieces and start sticking them back together again, because we value our relationship more than our pride. When we fight, I do not think "Ugh! I can no longer be with this person!" I think "This is helping us find out new things about each other, so we can get along better in the future." A world without any sort of conflict...I think I'd run away from that as quickly as possible, because it would be fake.
I think that a lot of people, especially wanderers and the like, are experiencing a great deal of sensitivity right now. Just look at my little outburst a month or so back. I got so angry and offended over nothing. The energy is so extremely high right now, I feel constantly on edge. A lot of hidden truth is coming to light, and some of it is hard to digest. Just about everyone I've talked to is experiencing the same thing...emotions running amok, tempers flaring, and a growing inability to express anything through words. Perhaps a bit of understanding and tolerance on all sides is what is needed most. This is the middle of the storm that will usher in a new way of life. It's supposed to be stormy! S**t happens...without it, we'd all still be sitting in caves talking in grunts.
This is the explosion that forms the star.
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