05-05-2011, 02:16 PM
(05-05-2011, 01:12 PM)Icaro Wrote: She was very unloving, selfish, and harsh. I had hoped that in being an example of acceptance and loving her imperfections, she would open up and return that love by accepting me. There was no molding her. Without details I'm sure you won't agree, so I'll just leave it at that.
There was no rejection either. I accept who she is and I am able to have love for her, but I do not have the willingness to put myself through the high level of stress involved in that kind of relationship. I have already learned those lessons. I'm here for other reasons.
Interestingly enough, my walking away finally forced her to truly look at herself and make some changes. This was my hope. Continuing to enable behavior isn't 'total love'. Total love is honest and forces you to face what you don't want to. I had come to the conclusion that in walking away, it would be symbolic of her not accepting me. In this way, I could also stop enabling her. This is the combination of compassion and wisdom. Keep in mind that we have since spoken and come to some understandings, so there has been no rejection.
That's not wisdom.
It took you awhile to realize what needed to happen. You finally succumbed to the universal energy.
From there, you have a conscious choice to apply. I'm not going to assess what you decided in your life. Especially not here.
I would like you to consider that it is not your own justification of wisdom that directed you. Wisdom is a higher order of perception than 3D. "we don't got it", you might say.