05-02-2011, 12:08 PM
(This post was last modified: 05-02-2011, 12:10 PM by Steppingfeet.)
Dear 3DMonkey,
You wrote in post #14 of this thread:
Either you wholly misunderstood what I was saying when I sent you a moderator PM this past Saturday, or you are deliberately fabricating an event and misrepresenting moderator intentions.
I presume the former, but either event necessitates extra effort on my part to establish clarity in this matter, both for you, and now for others who have been alerted of your being “mod-ed”.
Following is the relevant section of the PM I sent you on Saturday.
At no point in my message do I state, imply, or event hint that *anything* you said is perceived as “derogatory”.
On the contrary, in this section I, in *goodwill*, simply wanted to answer your uncertainty regarding the appropriateness of including personal anecdotes, and whether the discussion need be “dry”.
I wanted to tell you that, yes, personal material is fine! And that no, it need not be “dry”. As I kindly mentioned in my message, you are invited to include personal material, and to be playful as long as it is, as I say above, pertinent to and furthers discussion.
For future reference, the moderators approach everyone here with the utmost respect, and with a professional but friendly attitude, and are always willing to reflect on themselves should their approach be perceived as less than respectful. We truly want to do our best, and in our conception of things, “best” means treating others kindly, including you, 3DMonkey. This was my intention in PM'ing you.
Should a moderator PM create an issue with you, we request that you make an attempt to actually reply to the PM and engage the moderator in discussion, the moderator who genuinely wants harmony between you and all members and will work hard towards those ends.
It is unbecoming of the adults that we are to not respond to a moderator PM but opt instead to complain in the forums, in the process grossly misrepresenting moderator intention and action.
If you would like to continue this discussion further, please do so with me via PM and let’s not shift the focus of this thread any further.
Thank you, with love and light,
Gary
You wrote in post #14 of this thread:
Quote:Probably for the same reason the word "dry" is perceived as derogatory.
(I have been "mod-ed" for the use of this word)
Either you wholly misunderstood what I was saying when I sent you a moderator PM this past Saturday, or you are deliberately fabricating an event and misrepresenting moderator intentions.
I presume the former, but either event necessitates extra effort on my part to establish clarity in this matter, both for you, and now for others who have been alerted of your being “mod-ed”.
Following is the relevant section of the PM I sent you on Saturday.
Quote:GLB wrote 3DMonkey via PM:
And I thought I would offer a response to this post http://www.bring4th.org/forums/showthrea...5#pid37635.
You wrote, “I'm not sure if I'm allowed to offer my "personal" anecdotes and observations in this sub forum. So, I'll be as dry as possible.”
Not sure where you got the notion that personal material could not be included in the discussion, or that it had to be “dry”, because neither is true. Personal material is welcome and encouraged in this sub-forum. As the final note of the guidelines for the Advanced Studies point out, Ra says that the “self” is the material for understanding. Also, the guidelines mention that humor is completely welcome.
I think you are conflating focused/serious/in-depth conversation with arid, emotionless, impersonal discourse. This is not the case. Please by all means by lighthearted and playful provided that it is *pertinent to and furthers the discussion*. Strong focus and consistency is what we are shooting for here, among the other goals mentions in the guidelines. (http://www.bring4th.org/forums/showthread.php?tid=2607)
Is the distinction I am attempting to make clear? If not, please let me know and I would be happy to talk it further.
At no point in my message do I state, imply, or event hint that *anything* you said is perceived as “derogatory”.
On the contrary, in this section I, in *goodwill*, simply wanted to answer your uncertainty regarding the appropriateness of including personal anecdotes, and whether the discussion need be “dry”.
I wanted to tell you that, yes, personal material is fine! And that no, it need not be “dry”. As I kindly mentioned in my message, you are invited to include personal material, and to be playful as long as it is, as I say above, pertinent to and furthers discussion.
For future reference, the moderators approach everyone here with the utmost respect, and with a professional but friendly attitude, and are always willing to reflect on themselves should their approach be perceived as less than respectful. We truly want to do our best, and in our conception of things, “best” means treating others kindly, including you, 3DMonkey. This was my intention in PM'ing you.
Should a moderator PM create an issue with you, we request that you make an attempt to actually reply to the PM and engage the moderator in discussion, the moderator who genuinely wants harmony between you and all members and will work hard towards those ends.
It is unbecoming of the adults that we are to not respond to a moderator PM but opt instead to complain in the forums, in the process grossly misrepresenting moderator intention and action.
If you would like to continue this discussion further, please do so with me via PM and let’s not shift the focus of this thread any further.
Thank you, with love and light,
Gary
Explanation by the tongue makes most things clear, but love unexplained is clearer. - Rumi
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