Acceptance and Will

[Monica]

You are now hurting me. I will not continue. Don't apologize. I doubt your sincereity.

My final word- every situation contains love, and if one chooses love it is their own resposibility to distill the situation down to love.

I marvel at how, when we discuss these important concepts, conflicts often come up between members of our community which illustrate the archetypes at work. The very concepts we are discussing, manifest right in front of our noses!

I now find myself in a dilemma. What to do? I know in my heart that I never intended any offense or hurt towards 3DMonkey. And, although I felt momentarily offended by some of his comments towards me, which I perceived as confrontational, I know with absolute certainty that he never intended to hurt me either.

This is simply what happens when people discuss volatile topics. Buttons get pushed, and people perceive academic points as personal, when they were never intended to be personally directed. In most cases, both parties are simply expressing their opinions. It's nice when people can work together, and learn from each other, and expand their understanding of such deep concepts, but often that doesn't happen because of an inability to perceive the other point of view. Or, if the other person does understand it but simply disagrees, that disagreement is often misinterpreted as disrespect of lack of understanding.

Here we have an illustration of the very concept we've been discussing. I know my intentions are sincere, and my natural inclination is to reach out to 3DM, put my own hurt feelings aside, and apologize for anything I said which may have inadvertently hurt him.

BUT, he has just told me not to!

So, if I do it anyway, am I 'controlling' and 'manipulating' him?

Do I honor his wishes, and allow the misinterpretation of my words to stand? If I reach out with sincerity, knowing that my sincerity will be rejected, am I acting in an STS manner?

I know, and I hope 3DM knows, that we both have the same intention: To love and accept the other-self in accordance with Law of One principles.

How can we now put these principles into practice? Right now, after this heated discussion, in the midst of disagreement, how do we love an accept each other?

I will leave these thoughts out on the table. We don't need fictitious scenarios when we have a real, live scenario right here.