Acceptance and Will

[3DMonkey]

Monica, to accept another's choice to murder is STO. I don't mean that STO accepts killing, but they must accept the killer. Otherwise, there is not love.

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One does not accept another unless they accept the choices of an other.

Frankly, we are all choices.

How do we accept another entity who is engaging in actions that conflict with our STO path? If those actions are actions that we wouldn't choose...because they would be depolarizing for us...must we accept the other person's actions, in order to accept them?

For example, if a man is about to kill another man, and we witness it, we would try to stop him if we can, right? Or do we just stand idly by and watch him commit this act of violence?

If he is negatively polarized, then his action is likely appropriate for him. But not for us.

What is acceptance of his action? If we try to stop his action, in order to remain true to our own polarity, then we aren't accepting it, are we? But we can accept him, without accepting his action.

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I don't see it in the black and white terms you write here. Murder is an injustice, just to give you my stance off the bat....
If I am determined to polarize positive and I find myself observing the above scenario... I am to look at both entities involved, others, as self. You would prefer I focus on the murderer, so I will. From this point, I can assess what his needs are as they become my needs of self as well. This begins with accepting the thought in his mind that murdering is his desire. I can not reach him if I act in fear, or if I act in control. If I see this man as someone separate from myself, i.e. a crazy man that must be stopped, then I have not accepted him, and therefore I can not give him what he needs as Self. Acceptance is not a tool to allow whatever to happen, acceptance is a tool to see Other Self as Self, the action is secondary.
What I am getting at is that accepting murder is not a cowardly thing. That accepting the choice of an entity to murder allows us to see him as our Self. Then, looking deeper into to the Self (Other) we can see his true needs, which have nothing to do with the act of murder. The murderer has a feeling of separation from within, and we have an opportunity to reverse that if we first accept him. STO must reach for that person and draw him into us as One.

Now, the ideas that Ra talks on defensiveness. This is clear in my eyes as well. It is not taking action toward another, it is, quite literally, setting personal boundaries. It is putting one's foot down and saying, "I will not." Many times in my personal situations, others will view me as aggressive for my convictions. It isn't that I am infringing on their free will, it is simply that I choose not to do something. This frustrates them because I'm not participating with the group, but I have obligations to my Self that they haven't taken into account. Defense is an act of drawing the line for My Self, and not defending/arguing my principles to an Other.

I will finish with an analogy. If a child is holding a knife by the blade, we would not reach over to pull the blade out of the child's hand. This would cause more harm than good. What we would do is create an immediate bond with the child so as to show the child how to gently release the blade.
This analogy is for the mind of Self accepting the Other mind as Self.