free will and other selves

[Lorna]

it's not wrong to make someone aware of the affect their actions or decision has had on you, in the sharing you are encouraging a greater awareness and understanding of each other. i do think it would be counter productive to 'blame' another for the emotions you feel
engaging with your own emotions, accepting them, loving your emotional response helps you understand yourself which can only lead to further growth. painful emotions are often the source of great learning. of course you feel sad, you are grieving for a friendship that was important to you