Should I continue to have contact with my father?

[Vince]

I have no desire to be her friend again, but I do not want her negativity to affect me, ever again.

These lives of ours are full of choices, with and without hindsight, I made the best choice to get out of the worst situation of my life.

My advice is no not make yourself negative about it. Give them the benefit of the doubt maybe, but deffinately do not stay quiet, and let yourself boil about it. It clearly is having an affect on yur thoughts, as evidence of this thread.

this is basically where i'm at. i really have no energy to put up with my father's mistakes anymore at this point. i'm getting together with him this father's day, but i'm not sure how frequently that i'll bother to have contact with him after that. if he calls and contacts me occasionally, i suppose that's fine, but i'm not necessarily going to go out of my way to maintain contact with him beyond that. he's started into his drinking again since this man has moved in with him again, and i don't really care to talk to him when he's drunk. he at least wouldn't be drunk when talking with me on the phone when this man wasn't living with him for the last twelve years.