free will and other selves

[Meerie]

Over the past year I have noticed a subtle change in how the actions or words of other people affect me. I used to be very sensitive, going over and over comments that could be perceived as critical, analysing those words, trying to understand.

Lately I haven't been doing that and I feel much the better for it. A quote I heard Keisha Crowther say in a video rang a bell of truth for me "It's none of my business what other people think of me". I find that such a powerful concept.

I love Keisha Crowther! As usual, wise words from her.
When I was younger, and someone would say something insulting or nasty to me, I would always take it seriously and think I deserved it, whereas when someone paid me a compliment, I would think "naaa, they probably don't mean it anyway", so low was my self-esteem.
Now I am trying to do it the other way round.