03-28-2011, 08:22 AM
I didn't mean anything negative saying it is light. I didn't mean insignificant. I meant it doesn't seem to be something that would noticeable move the dial on the polarity-meter.
Hmmm "allowing her to feel". You don't have a choice in that matter. We are all allowed to feel.
You are obviously trying to come to terms with how you feel about it all. It's why you posted.
Some things to remember: to feel obligated by some sort of control mechanism on her part is leaning toward STS. To feel justified by obtaining power over self through the dellusion that you "allow her" is leaning toward STS. To give yourself to provide comfort for her is leaning toward STO. Even to not go with her could result in STO.
What is it that she possesses that gives you a sense of control over you? Her affection? Her finances? Her approval? Her support? We generally fear losing something when we feel controlled.
Hmmm "allowing her to feel". You don't have a choice in that matter. We are all allowed to feel.
You are obviously trying to come to terms with how you feel about it all. It's why you posted.
Some things to remember: to feel obligated by some sort of control mechanism on her part is leaning toward STS. To feel justified by obtaining power over self through the dellusion that you "allow her" is leaning toward STS. To give yourself to provide comfort for her is leaning toward STO. Even to not go with her could result in STO.
What is it that she possesses that gives you a sense of control over you? Her affection? Her finances? Her approval? Her support? We generally fear losing something when we feel controlled.