06-08-2009, 09:24 AM
I'm 20, so I'm bound to have a very different idea to this.
Cutting people off is something I have long pondered. Having been in a situation when a "friend" had lied to me and my partner about having cancer. Amongst other things, it all hit breaking point and I do not speak to her anymore. She is the one person who has offended me to such a degree, and I have never been treated so lowly by another human being.
She had her chance to have shared my wisdom, and through her negative actions she lost that chance.
The way I justify it, If i don't think about her, at all or at least not very negatively my mind is clear. I don't hold a grudge against her, she can mess up her own life without my help.
It may sound like I have not, but I have made many an attempt at forgiving her, within my mind. I have no desire to be her friend again, but I do not want her negativity to affect me, ever again.
These lives of ours are full of choices, with and without hindsight, I made the best choice to get out of the worst situation of my life.
My advice is no not make yourself negative about it. Give them the benefit of the doubt maybe, but deffinately do not stay quiet, and let yourself boil about it. It clearly is having an affect on yur thoughts, as evidence of this thread.
Ali's approach is good. Slightly less extreme than my own, But don't do it if it makes you sad.
As this is a parent figure, and we choose our parents, I would look into what lessons could be learnt. There are many reasons why this person is your father, maybe there are yet your you may not have discovered.
Maybe it is the lesson of forgiveness you need to learn, and it is your Dad who is facilitating that?
Just some flowing thoughts on the matter, don't take me too seriously if you don't want to.
Blood is thicker than water,
Love and Light
Cutting people off is something I have long pondered. Having been in a situation when a "friend" had lied to me and my partner about having cancer. Amongst other things, it all hit breaking point and I do not speak to her anymore. She is the one person who has offended me to such a degree, and I have never been treated so lowly by another human being.
She had her chance to have shared my wisdom, and through her negative actions she lost that chance.
The way I justify it, If i don't think about her, at all or at least not very negatively my mind is clear. I don't hold a grudge against her, she can mess up her own life without my help.
It may sound like I have not, but I have made many an attempt at forgiving her, within my mind. I have no desire to be her friend again, but I do not want her negativity to affect me, ever again.
These lives of ours are full of choices, with and without hindsight, I made the best choice to get out of the worst situation of my life.
My advice is no not make yourself negative about it. Give them the benefit of the doubt maybe, but deffinately do not stay quiet, and let yourself boil about it. It clearly is having an affect on yur thoughts, as evidence of this thread.
Ali's approach is good. Slightly less extreme than my own, But don't do it if it makes you sad.
As this is a parent figure, and we choose our parents, I would look into what lessons could be learnt. There are many reasons why this person is your father, maybe there are yet your you may not have discovered.
Maybe it is the lesson of forgiveness you need to learn, and it is your Dad who is facilitating that?
Just some flowing thoughts on the matter, don't take me too seriously if you don't want to.
Blood is thicker than water,
Love and Light