Should I continue to have contact with my father?

[Ali Quadir]

The fact of the matter is if you did have a relationship with him and his partner did something like that. If you found out you would have to report it. There should be no moral dilemma. Simply report it so another kid doesn't get injured. And I don't think there's much moral agonising even after that decision.

Very good points!

Especially if you make it abundantly clear up front that you will not keep secrets for others. The problem with broken secrets is the feeling of betrayal which is the result of a broken expectation. If you make it absolutely clear that the expectation of you keeping a secret is false. Then you create no expectation and therefore can't break it.

Also it seems to me that being a friend is often saying "Don't do it" like you told your father Phoenix. You were a friend when you told him not to do it. And since he followed your advice you were a useful friend. Being a friend is not telling what the other wants to hear, but telling them what they need to hear.