03-14-2011, 07:50 PM
Has any one mentioned this?
The idea of feeling guilty after yelling at someone, or at the least, feeling the difficulty in apology is a clear example of how hurting others actually hurts your self. The other self being yelled at is in control of their hurt received. Their own capacity for acceptance determines their level of pain, and even then if pain is felt its because they don't accept being yelled at. The pain felt by the yeller toward providing apology and the pain felt as guilt is the same struggle of acceptance that prompted the angry yelling to begin with. The apology becomes more beneficial to balance the apologizer than the perceived victim of the fiasco.
The idea of feeling guilty after yelling at someone, or at the least, feeling the difficulty in apology is a clear example of how hurting others actually hurts your self. The other self being yelled at is in control of their hurt received. Their own capacity for acceptance determines their level of pain, and even then if pain is felt its because they don't accept being yelled at. The pain felt by the yeller toward providing apology and the pain felt as guilt is the same struggle of acceptance that prompted the angry yelling to begin with. The apology becomes more beneficial to balance the apologizer than the perceived victim of the fiasco.