apologising and empathy

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more on empathy.

someone said in the density thread that seeing earthquakes people care, but um, i feel nothing watching earthquakes and floods and stuff. i just think another catastrophe. i think i decided a long time ago it does no good to feel bad for everybody cuz then i'd be rolling in pain all day. what's the appropriate response? i don't get it. sometimes i feel really cold. :/ clearly it's awful for the people there and if i was there i'd care but i have no frame of reference for what an earthquake is like. i guess i just can't imagine it. meh. what is empathy? if they say worry does no good, doesn't empathy cause worry? i'm so confused. i know we should not worry and just send love and prayers so i guess i should pray for japan more. but i just don't get why i never feel anything when others do. and when others don't i do. i cried watching anne frank's diary, and i though at the end of it so many people went through that i can't possible watch all their stories. i can't cry for them all. i remember thinking about war on TV that i can't feel anything for those people.

Empathy is opening the heart to another; to understand their circumstances and to offer support.

Do not judge yourself by your reactions to what you see on TV. It's different, years of TV makes many people desensitised to it. If the same thing happened on your doorstep, you might be surprised how you would react.

Abraham and Bashar give the advice that joining others in sorrow/grief only adds to the current circumstances. Lowering one's vibration from love to fear/pity, in the name of being 'empathic', is counter productive.

You may not instinctively burst out to tears in front of the news, what matters is what you consciously choose to do. Do you choose to keep the heart closed? Or do you choose to offer love, in any means you see necessary. These are the choices we make day by day.

We're in the Density of Choice. Choose consciously.