03-09-2011, 03:03 AM
I have never been in the situation of having to forgive someone else for murdering a member of my family, thank God... but I have been betrayed by people I trusted (or I felt they betrayed me... maybe I betrayed myself by trusting in them, who knows?)
Anyway I think the whole point of forgiveness is becoming whole again, in a sense that you take your energy back. The energy that is focussed on feelings of revenge, of constantly thinking about the betrayal or other misdemenours that have been committed by others... if you choose revenge and un-forgiveness then it occupies a large part of your time and energy.
It is very liberating to let go and, by forgiving, gaining back that energy. I don't know any better way to put it here, I hope you understand how I mean it
Anyway I think the whole point of forgiveness is becoming whole again, in a sense that you take your energy back. The energy that is focussed on feelings of revenge, of constantly thinking about the betrayal or other misdemenours that have been committed by others... if you choose revenge and un-forgiveness then it occupies a large part of your time and energy.
It is very liberating to let go and, by forgiving, gaining back that energy. I don't know any better way to put it here, I hope you understand how I mean it