Some advice.

[Diana]

For the first, you might consider that the general assignment here is to learn to accept the unacceptable and love the unlovable, and if you're open to just about everything, then you have a big job on your hands and you ought to get busy with it.  So, how do you learn to accept and love?  In my case, I don't have to go very far.  I catch out of the corner of my eye--or much more directly--the various things I can't stand and I allow the emotional charge to deflate.  Then I look within the objects of my disdain for the elements I can love.  Then I work to shift the emotional charge from disdain to love.

BUT.  BUT, in order for this sort of thing to work even a little bit, you have to desire it to work in a very, very deep personal place.  No, rather, in many deep personal places.  You have to first find these places which desire a world made out of love.  Seek.  Seek.  Find those places within you and become dedicated to them.  Then do the hard work mentioned above.

Do all this for a year and a day and--POOF--you will find you are living happily ever after.   You know.....kind of.

This seems very wise and well put to me.