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[Bring4th_Austin]

I certainly believe that we set up various types of relationships prior to our incarnation, and that there is some specific or general hopes for what kind of lesson that relationship will have for both entities. I don't necessarily view it as completely predestined, or as one single goal. Part of the reason for us to become veiled beings within incarnation is to emphasize our free will, so no matter what kind of relationships or lessons we set ourselves up for, those might get interrupted by the will of the incarnated self (whether it's us or someone else whose life path collides with ours in some novel way). I suspect that when we're planning for an incarnation, with the aid of our higher selves, we have some idea of the various probabilities/possibilities given various sets of circumstances. While our incarnation might branch out in any number of infinite ways, there are probably some circumstances or relationships that have a much higher chance of manifesting than others, and we kind of bank our incarnational lessons on those higher probabilities.

I certainly have (and have had) relationships that seem to have some specific type of interaction in mind. Some people I feel were planned to awaken me to certain ideas, or to trigger certain catalysts to help me to grow in certain ways. So I suspect it's very possible that some wanderers "pair" with third density beings with some notion of helping them to graduate. After all, Ra says one of the primary goals of wanderers being here is to aid the harvest.

I do think it's important, though, to consider that when we try to figure out the nature of our planned relationships, we're still working with a veiled perspective. We can land on various themes and ideas that we believe we may be paired with someone else for, but those concepts are all filtered through our personal distortions. This concept can be a double-edged sword, in that having the context of a preincarnational plan can help us to make sense of our relationships and learn the lessons we came here to learn, or perform the service we came here to perform. On the other edge, committing to a single view of what one believes a relationship should be because we feel that's what we planned for prior to incarnation can stifle our ability to grow, transform, and evolve within that relationship. And in a worst case scenario, could perpetuate some form of distortion (as I've read about various cases where the idea of "twin flames" is used to perpetuate an abusive relationship).

I personally try to remember that despite whatever specifics we attach to any given relationship, the fundamental part of any lesson of third density is opening the heart. Maybe what we thought was supposed to be some specific relationship isn't working out, or we're not finding any success in a perceived mission. In my life, these situations have led me to realize that my lesson in the relationship was to release any expectations and simply share love in whatever way makes sense in the moment. Because I doubt any relationship like that is intended to just emphasize one entity's growth, but to provide catalyst for both entities, wanderer or not. If I wanderer agreed to try to help a third-density entity evolve within an incarnation, I'm sure the third-density entity also agreed to help the wanderer evolve.


(As an aside, this thread makes me recollect a very important relationship I had with one of my best friends ever, a corgi named Plato. I think it's extremely likely that we had agreed prior to incarnation to find each other. I believe that he did probably achieve harvestability in his lifetime, and my relationship with him opened my heart probably the most of any relationship I've had in this incarnation. He taught me a lot about love, service, and duty/honor.)