Marriages as "Adversary Relationships"

[Diana]

I think there is a place where Ra speaks of the many more opportunities  for catalyst offered by mariage  than living solitary in a cave 

I think this is definitely part of the idea of marriage, or any living situation with another person, as adversarial.

When two people live together, being two different individuals no matter how like-minded they are, there will be areas of conflict or areas where compromise is needed. A common issue which comes to mind is maintaining the environment—house cleaning. Unless there is a live-in maid, someone has to do it. Generally the idea is that both partners share equally in that responsibility and even more, do it gladly out of respect and love for the environment. But we all know it doesn't usually play out like that. 

Unless two people are both independent financially, emotionally, and mentally, and stay together not because of a legal contract but because they wish to, there will likely be imbalances. And that includes whatever societal notions affect the partnership which override what the prompts of the spirit—such as monogamy. Woody Allen comes to mind. I remember how ostracized and reviled he was for leaving Mia Farrow for one of their stepchildren. But Allen is still married to her, and she is a very average-seeming person, and I imagine that they are soulmates or (soul)contracted to be together or something like that. But societal ideas of what marriage and love are judged that union without looking beyond the obvious (in other words, what society thought should or shouldn't be).