Human Relationships and the Concept of Judgment

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...My point is: judging someone else's distortions doesn't seems to me as something that can increase our negative polarity. It doesn't seem wrong to me. It's just a perception...

as HH Dalai-Lama puts it, "love is the absence of judgement. As Ra/Q'uo puts it love is acceptance and forgiveness. they told us "those who are hardest to love need love the most". so being judgemental blocks one's love and creates separation. but that is perfectly fine since we are imperfect beings and we should not judge ourselves for being judgemental but to use our discerment and stay away from toxic individuals is not a judgement, it is common sense...

...Over the past few months I have been dealing with a difficult and challenging catalyst having to do with a person I love and my difficulty seeing and noticing her distortions. With the fear of judging, I put myself in a situation of emotional fragility and realized that I was going down the path of martyrdom. Ra talked about the green ray entities being ineffective in the face of others' blockages as opposed to the blue ray entities. It always seemed to me that the path is this balance between wisdom and compassion, but in practice we end up being victims of immoderate love and we close our eyes to things that hurt us...

there are a lot of people with dysfunctional family backgrounds, daddy/mommy issues, bpd, generalized anxiety disorders etc. those people got all this heavy catalyst so they can learn how to accept and love themselves. if your help was not being asked by such a person, you doing no service to them. to love unconditionally does not mean to accept toxic personality shell.