Dealing with sexuality.

[Steppingfeet]

You can, (either), do it as a gross material pleasure, (or), as a concentration and Meditation and Tantra. Either are acceptable and your decision. Is anyone going to judge you? The fact is, there is a borderline between the personal self, and the selfless self.

I think what the problem is, you are trying to complicate things. It doesn't have to be complicated. Live a normal life, and when the time is right, concentrate on the Spiritual.

"A borderline between the personal self and the selfless self." I like that. It conjures in me a sense that the two distinctions belong to a unified self and that there is some threshold within that self that, once crossed, takes one further into what we call selflessness, this depending on one's intentions and the purity therein.

Regarding Brandon complicating things... I think that one's relationship to their sexuality is an inherently complex one; complex if one had never encountered another human being, but all the more complex given millennia of accumulated cultural/religious around sexuality, and powerful negative inroads made in that realm, that we unconsciously absorb from the world around us.

Not negating the possibility and the value of simplicity, and simplifying one's outlook, though. From the vantage point of simplicity, a lot of human activity is just superimposed and unnnecessary complication.

Ming, I also appreciate your thoughts about positive attitudes and goodwill (if truly and purely embodied, I would add) necessarily promote peace.

Brandon, I did not attempt to speak to the more complex, deep-rooted, and personal aspects of your relationship to sexuality. I think others did so very well. I just meant briefly to touch on the question embedded in your OP concerning the application of polarity in consciousness to sexual self-care.

Is that or any particular activity STS or STO or neither or both? This is why it is important, I think for one to gain a decent grasp on polarity in consciousness as the Confederation describe if one is going to use the Confederation philosophy as a map and compass on their journey. Lacking sufficient understanding, ideas can be misapplied to self and others. But, that's part of the journey too, for all of us.