(05-27-2021, 05:49 AM)Agua Wrote: @Aion
I am sorry to hear that!
It often starts in infant age already and goes on for years, for someone not having experienced that, it’s impossible to even imagine.
It takes a long time, but it is really possible to heal from that.
Glad you could break free from those circles!
I wish all the best to you and your fiancé!
For sure, I agree it's pretty unfathomable and challenging to support. The toughest moments are when you can't do anything, there are no words of comfort that will work, you can only hold the space and try to help them (or sometimes myself...) back up again after the spiral. In the cases where it starts in infancy or even very early childhood like my fiance it permanently shapes and changes the person and their development, but as you say, there is always the possibility of regaining some wholeness. That being said, it's going to affect you no matter your age if it happens to you. My experiences at 7 impacted me rather quickly.
Fortunately that circle is broken completely at this point and everyone I know still is doing better. Thank you, we're kind of two broken peas in a pod, but at least we got a pod. You as well.