Studying Forgiveness

[Diana]

All beautiful words by Q'uo, Hatonn, and Yada. For me personally, the following excerpt is of practical use:

Think of yourself as an object other than yourself. Gaze upon the self as upon a stranger, and you will find that your opinion of yourself is changed, for you do not judge others as you judge yourself.

This kind of objective observation is a great way to unhook the attachment to those things which haunt us. We do things as we grow, as we evolve, even when we are children, that in looking back on, as we are now, may be lacking in compassion or understanding. From an objective perspective, if we can achieve this, those acts or thoughts or responses can be put into perspective as we know there was awareness in that area not yet awakened to. But from our current perspective these memories can be tortuous to look at. Deeper are the childhood wounds in dysfunctional family dynamics (which involves every family in 3D to a degree).

What I find of the greatest use in overcoming self-judgment is the idea of gaining evolution of consciousness (which is buried among the flowery texts in the OP). And the following quote from Ra is, in my experience, demonstrative of how this process works:

80.11 ▶ Questioner: Could I say, then, that implicit in the process of becoming adept is the possible partial polarization towards service to self because simply the adept becomes disassociated with many of his kind or like in the particular density which he inhabits?

Ra: I am Ra. This is likely to occur. The apparent happening is disassociation whether the truth is service to self and thus true disassociation from other-selves or service to others and thus true association with the heart of all other-selves and disassociation only from the illusory husks which prevent the adept from correctly perceiving the self and other-self as one.

80.12 ▶ Questioner: Then you say that this effect of disassociation on the service-to-others adept is a stumbling block or slowing process in reaching that goal which he aspires to? Is this correct?

Ra: I am Ra. This is incorrect. This disassociation from the miasma of illusion and misrepresentation of each and every distortion is a quite necessary portion of an adept’s path. It may be seen by others to be unfortunate.

80.13 ▶ Questioner: Then is this, from the point of view or with respect to the fifteenth archetype, somewhat of an excursion into the Matrix of the Spirit in this process? Does that make any sense?

Ra: I am Ra. The excursion of which you speak and the process of disassociation is most usually linked with that archetype you call Hope which we would prefer to call Faith. This archetype is the Catalyst of the Spirit and, because of the illuminations of the Potentiator of the Spirit, will begin to cause these changes in the adept’s viewpoint.

Perhaps this is just the direction I have traveled, and going directly to embrace forgiveness hasn't worked well for me. As is stated above in the OP—it can't be forced. The direction I have taken is more akin to what Ra describes, which leads one to forgiveness without actually having to forgive—it just is as one reaches this disassociation (which paradoxically is one of unity).