Taking the Long Way Back

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...I always wondered if we chose our parents / families / countries ect before incarnating or was it done randomly?

You chose that and a great many other things. Only the very new 3d entities have their plans chosen by their higher-self until they become aware enough to take part in the process.

Maybe yes, my close family is so the opposite of me that sometimes I wonder why I'm here especially as I have a hard time changing them!

The upward energy waves had no effect on them, well that said I respect their choices not to know but it is quite frustrating for me.