04-14-2021, 11:37 AM
I don't think it's quite necessary to go into the nitty gritty details, but long story short, a personal relationship of mine has become tumultuous over the last few years.
It's gotten to a point now where small things set my friend off. It's pretty obvious to me that they are hanging on to a lot of anger, and so (seemingly) 'small' things will happen, and it will trigger intense catalyst for this person. Once it's triggered, this person has a hard time keeping their cool and so it becomes difficult for me to have a conversation with them. That might be the understatement of the century, but.... anyways, the details aren't particularly important.
My main thing is: every time this has come up with my friend, I feel the urge to tell them how their behavior makes me feel. However, lately I have begun to feel that I am violating this person's free will by saying this, because every time I do, it is clear that this person doesn't even want to see how I feel about it.
So it has become a bit of a Catch-22 situation for me. This person wants to "talk things out" with me, and yet... it's clear that they aren't willing to understand where I'm coming from, so what can I say? I don't want to violate their free will in this situation, if they truly do not want to see this.
The only option I see now..... is to simply be silent and do what I need to do for myself.
Does anyone resonate here with what I'm saying?
It's gotten to a point now where small things set my friend off. It's pretty obvious to me that they are hanging on to a lot of anger, and so (seemingly) 'small' things will happen, and it will trigger intense catalyst for this person. Once it's triggered, this person has a hard time keeping their cool and so it becomes difficult for me to have a conversation with them. That might be the understatement of the century, but.... anyways, the details aren't particularly important.
My main thing is: every time this has come up with my friend, I feel the urge to tell them how their behavior makes me feel. However, lately I have begun to feel that I am violating this person's free will by saying this, because every time I do, it is clear that this person doesn't even want to see how I feel about it.
So it has become a bit of a Catch-22 situation for me. This person wants to "talk things out" with me, and yet... it's clear that they aren't willing to understand where I'm coming from, so what can I say? I don't want to violate their free will in this situation, if they truly do not want to see this.
The only option I see now..... is to simply be silent and do what I need to do for myself.
Does anyone resonate here with what I'm saying?
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