BDSM / Polyamory And The Positive Path

[Black Dragon]

Hard for me to answer this one definitively or objectively. I'd say it comes down to true intent. If these activities are a fun game you can play and its about the greater experience of playing rolls rather than some type of repressed shadow high from controlling or being controlled, I'd say it's ok. If both parties maintain love and respect for themselves and their partner while playing the roles and have fun without getting invested in the domination aspect in a distorted or disrespectful way. Nobody from the outside looking in can make that call or distinction.

Polyamory, I had some inherent aversion to the idea as a child and teen and was very fixed on the concept of the one perfect mate. It was probably a bit of a holdover because my SMC is/was probably more monogamist oriented. I makes sense, because supposedly many cultures in Orion are(or were at one time in their development) pretty hardcore monogamist on the concept of one perfect mate you can trust/confide/be vulnerable with above anyone else in society. I've expanded my viewpoint a lot since my late teens and early adulthood, but also simplified it. "Do what works for you" is the new mantra here. It's a combo between what you desire from life and where life takes you and other factors making such a decision, but ultimately loving people isn't wrong.

Porn is like McDonalds French fries. "Tastes good", but is really kind of crap, makes you feel sluggish. Almost all of it, especially the really hardcore stuff that keeps getting crazier and more desensitized, is fairly low vibration. Something I'm in the process of changing in my own life. I'd say if somebody must use porn as a visual aid to stick to simple and tasteful nude modeling pictures that are a lot more respectful and less draining.