[split] Adversary relationships, and the mated pair

[Dtris]

What really struck me is when Ra seemed to bash marriage.  Instead Ra seemed to support the idea of free love exchange of some sort, which sounds like an utter disaster.  This always rubbed me the wrong way as well.

They also say how most wanderer densities (I think 4-6) are adverse to childbearing.

Yup.  Marriage, family, raising children are so great for society and ourselves, so that always struck me as odd.

He called them adversary relationships. Which imo is due to the legal framework we have enshrined around the concept of marriage. Everything about the two individuals gets tied together and if for some reason they want two different things, then either one must prevail or the relationship will end.

This causes many negative emotions such as resentment, anger, jealousy, etc.

His statement about children was similar, that wanderer's tend to have an aversion to having children. Infinite gave the exact reason why. I would imagine in a lot of people that is subconscious though.

What is important when reading the Ra material is to understand that their remarks are made as an outside observer. They have no skin in the game. As near as I can tell they never make value judgements. If you have an emotional reaction to Ra making a statement, such as feeling they are putting down something or saying something is not natural, then that is probably your own biases coming forth. Nothing wrong with that, it happens to everyone. It is catalyst if you learn from it. Same goes to anything else you read or hear as well. The Ra material makes good practice in using that as catalyst since it can be so dry and intellectual. Compared to normal conversations or even us talking on here.