From my experience: start consciously loving the addiction and accept that it is an expression of self-nurture.
So every time you engage in the addictive activity, thoroughly enjoy it consciously. It almost becomes similar to meditating: you have to really sit with it and experience it deeply. Every time you do it, try to make it a conscious, loving, indulging. Don't beat yourself up if at one time you have difficulties remaining conscious while engaging in it.
After some time and probably depending on other possible factors as well (trauma) the more self-work you do, the less strong the addictions become.
And here is the kicker:
At the precise moment of quitting: YOU'll KNOW. You have to trust me on this. If you think you should quit, don't bother. If you're forcing yourself, don't bother. Love the addiction, nurture yourself and when the time to quit arrives, you're gonna know it, trust me.
And you won't be quitting anything but rather, the habit will simply stop by itself without much, if any effort.
So stop worrying and LOVE your addictions. Don't do it mindlessly. Make it into a ritual expression of love and self-nurture towards yourself. Invest or fabricate your very own personalised tools that you use to consume the drug. Create a safe space with special decorations, lights, incense, whatever in which you experience the drug. Before taking the drug, do a ritualised prayer; perhaps set an intention; ask the drug to show you something you might be missing about yourself.
Use the drug as way of self-healing. All it takes is to switch the intention from "I hate myself for doing this" to "I love myself BY doing this".
Good luck and ENJOY!
So every time you engage in the addictive activity, thoroughly enjoy it consciously. It almost becomes similar to meditating: you have to really sit with it and experience it deeply. Every time you do it, try to make it a conscious, loving, indulging. Don't beat yourself up if at one time you have difficulties remaining conscious while engaging in it.
After some time and probably depending on other possible factors as well (trauma) the more self-work you do, the less strong the addictions become.
And here is the kicker:
At the precise moment of quitting: YOU'll KNOW. You have to trust me on this. If you think you should quit, don't bother. If you're forcing yourself, don't bother. Love the addiction, nurture yourself and when the time to quit arrives, you're gonna know it, trust me.
And you won't be quitting anything but rather, the habit will simply stop by itself without much, if any effort.
So stop worrying and LOVE your addictions. Don't do it mindlessly. Make it into a ritual expression of love and self-nurture towards yourself. Invest or fabricate your very own personalised tools that you use to consume the drug. Create a safe space with special decorations, lights, incense, whatever in which you experience the drug. Before taking the drug, do a ritualised prayer; perhaps set an intention; ask the drug to show you something you might be missing about yourself.
Use the drug as way of self-healing. All it takes is to switch the intention from "I hate myself for doing this" to "I love myself BY doing this".
Good luck and ENJOY!