Over time I’ve found that I've needed ever more refined ways of dealing with myself. Once upon a time self control was enough to move me in the right direction, but at some point what I understood about control became too forceful and rigid. I needed either a very slight adjustment of how I understood the idea of control or else a new concept that more accurately helped me understand what I needed to do.
Something that I’ve tried to say once before was that sometimes the best thing to do is not ask for help here, or from any person but to ask from help for whatever it is that it makes sense for you to ask it from. How well can I explain how to be in control without being so much in control? Not very well I’m sure. Yet as you sit there and look at yourself you can simply say something to the effect of, “Well I don’t get it, something isn’t quite right about my approach, can you show me what I’m doing wrong?” And right then and there you might be shown the ever so slight adjustment that you need.
Something that I’ve tried to say once before was that sometimes the best thing to do is not ask for help here, or from any person but to ask from help for whatever it is that it makes sense for you to ask it from. How well can I explain how to be in control without being so much in control? Not very well I’m sure. Yet as you sit there and look at yourself you can simply say something to the effect of, “Well I don’t get it, something isn’t quite right about my approach, can you show me what I’m doing wrong?” And right then and there you might be shown the ever so slight adjustment that you need.
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