What is the perfect way to respond to an insult/confrontation?

[dexter101]

There are several passages in the LOO about how to deal with Catalyst, especially of anger.

It boils down to feeling the emotions or catalyst and not repressing it, and acting in a natural manner. If the action would harm another it is better to be imagined than physical.

Personally, since I have been following this advice things have gotten interesting more often. I speak my mind more and I a make it known when I disagree or think something is out of line. The reaction should be a natural expression, that is the hard part. Moderating that expression can be difficult. On the whole though I have found that this has increased communication between me and others and actually brought us closer.

i think the best one can do is try to remove onself from the situation. i think it largely also depends on the environment you are in. i have found that it depends a lot on the power structure. it is not a good idea to have a fight or an argument with one's boss. similarly there is a social hierarchy and so on. i know this is all sts but i cant help observe this in real life.

also i dont think it is ever necessary to respond to an insult.a physical confrontation can be dodged or avoided and self defense is justifiable. people are only ever really offended when it touches their ego and then they respond. i have found that it is extremely hard to let insults not affect my state of mind, yet this is the key. attachment is the root cause of suffering. words can not truly hurt us. i think if it really does get physical one can do the best to defend onself. at the workplace it is really hard. if you let it slide people will think you are weak and walk all over you. this can cause a lot of problems, sabotage leading up to physical confrontations... the same goes for prison and other places. one can not simply remove themselves from the environment that easily. a confrontation must be carefully calculated. confronting another colleague is easy but confronting your boss may mean losing your job. confronting someone physically stronger than you might result in a lost fight. this is the hierarchy and i find it all over society.
perhaps i have a perspective problem. i read that jesus was often harrased and so was buddha but they never reacted to that but they weren't part of the hierarchy either so they had nothing to lose or gain. if you are inside the hierarchy you are part of the problem.
How do you remove yourself from the hierarchy?
it wont work with money. having more than the other always requires some sort of scam. there is bitcoin, a alternative to the current system.  what we truly need is a alternative to the system. a place where everyone is free to do whatever they wish to do, only then will be free, truly free to do whatever we please. free from violence, insults, disease and all the other negative stuff that comes with a inherently negative system. perhaps wanderers came here not to bring light into the matrix but instead establish a new matrix, a better one. a world in which each person has precisly the same power as the other person. a world without hierarchy ,seperation and disparities . a world where every man is truly equal, seen and treated as such.



perhaps another person can articulate it better than i can:
Rudolf Steiner:
"The esoteric teacher also gives practical instructions for the development of the inner life to the pupil whose free will, however, he never would restrain in any way.   The first rule is: provide moments of inner tranquility for yourself and learn to distinguish the essential from the non-essential in these moments. Such rules were originally given in the esoteric schools not in words but in symbols.   The esoteric pupil should withdraw for a short time (at least five minutes) from his daily life  and  should  let  his  joys,  his  sorrows,  his  cares,  his  experiences,  his  deeds  pass  in review before his soul like a stranger. He must face himself with the inner tranquility of a judge. The value of this tranquil self-contemplation depends less upon what he looks than on the strength that such tranquilitybrings about.   This tranquility will then also radiate on everyday life and lead to a new philosophy of life. The  gained  tranquility  and  mental  certainty  finally  have  an  effect  on  the  whole  human being. Thus words meant as insults, e.g., run off from the esoteric pupil like water. When the pupil is waiting, he should use the time for observations instead of developing useless impatience, etc. Through tranquility and certainty, the pupil creates space in himself for the birth of the "higher man” who becomes then the inner ruler and directs the circumstances of the outer person with sure hand.    The pupil, however, has to proceed beyond this self-contemplation and rise to the purely human reality, turn his gaze to the higher worlds. This calm contemplation must become a natural necessity of his life; he must learn to love the inflow of the spirit that comes to him  from  it.  He  recognises  that  thoughts  are  not  mere  shadows  but  concealed  beings. Spiritual  science  calls  this  living  in  spiritual  essentiality meditation.  As  material  for meditations, the thoughts or writings of great initiates are suited, which they themselves received as revelations."