The Cultivation of Radical Honesty

[Sacred Fool]

Okay, I'll bite.

Here's a thought or two.


Identifying your relationship to pain and discomfort as conditioners of the quality of honest self disclosure is a very important observation, in my experience. This can be, oh, so important when this is all happening unconsciously. Ergo, it's very important, as you probably already know, to learn to identify these things by inference--by identifying their subtle, underwater signatures--so that they can eventually be fished out and assuaged through open identification and acceptance. For me, oftentimes they do simply fall away by that point, by the way.

Here's my take on the situation in general: I am motivated most strongly by my desire to reconnect with my "full self" (as I feel it intuitively) and this is also what guides me. So directed, I step into all kinds of muck--mainly internal, these days--but I persevere owing to the intensity of my desire to reach my goal.

In other words, whenever I run into something self-defeating (or otherwise defeating), I rely upon the strength and focus of my will to reach my goal to move me through it.

This isn't good advice for everyone, by any means, but it's the pattern I've noted in my own behavior.

For me, honesty and the will to re-join my "full self" are directly related. This is, obviously, akin to your observation that lack of will can be a cause for a blurring of honesty. The will has to be guided by a goal the way a navigator uses the stars or objects on the horizon, right? What's yours focused upon?