07-19-2020, 08:33 PM
This stuff is tricky, because the way one's personal emotions work is often completely unrelated to what one knows and understands intellectually.
I'm very neurotic in terms of worrying about taking up others' time, energy, or other resources. At the same time, the result of caring a lot about that is merely the re-arrangement of how time, energy, etc. is taken up across space and time. And often not any improvement, when rationally examined. And I also see that those who don't care at all about it are all over the range of taking more or less from others; some of those who care the least about it take the least from others.
With you and attention, I'm sure you know that many don't care about needing a reson to get attention, at all. And many don't care at all about the "worthiness" of who or what they give their attention to. Attention is given or received however it happens, simply. And then, there's the opposite - those for whom it is tricky, with lots of consideration about the giving and/or taking of attention, a lot of emotional involvement with that, etc. And mostly it is totally irrational.
Rationally, most of the time what we worry about or feel anxious about is completely without consequence, simply not mattering at all. That's totally normal for humanity, part of the basic absurdity of the species and how it works.
This stuff goes beyond language, and those who have issues of this kind and then resolve it do so in their own ways, whether or not they get help to do it from others.
If you get in touch with aspects of yourself allowing you to change something, deeply felt, so that all is different, as it is felt, afterwards... Well, that's the "shape" of progress.
Before I dug deeper into the Law of One material, I spent years exploring psychology, and writing in a journal where I distilled ideas and personal themes, however my mind ended up arranging them as I went. It helped. (But all that work on the self over years was like the starter engine compared to the spiritual journey/rollercoaster afterwards.)
I can generally recommend efforts to write and explore themes in your own ways on your own, with the aim of making things clear to yourself (even if not clear at the start). Also, should the discussion turn that way, I know of a few books I could recommend on the general psychological area, though the focus of this community tends to be more immediately practical.
I'm very neurotic in terms of worrying about taking up others' time, energy, or other resources. At the same time, the result of caring a lot about that is merely the re-arrangement of how time, energy, etc. is taken up across space and time. And often not any improvement, when rationally examined. And I also see that those who don't care at all about it are all over the range of taking more or less from others; some of those who care the least about it take the least from others.
With you and attention, I'm sure you know that many don't care about needing a reson to get attention, at all. And many don't care at all about the "worthiness" of who or what they give their attention to. Attention is given or received however it happens, simply. And then, there's the opposite - those for whom it is tricky, with lots of consideration about the giving and/or taking of attention, a lot of emotional involvement with that, etc. And mostly it is totally irrational.
Rationally, most of the time what we worry about or feel anxious about is completely without consequence, simply not mattering at all. That's totally normal for humanity, part of the basic absurdity of the species and how it works.
This stuff goes beyond language, and those who have issues of this kind and then resolve it do so in their own ways, whether or not they get help to do it from others.
If you get in touch with aspects of yourself allowing you to change something, deeply felt, so that all is different, as it is felt, afterwards... Well, that's the "shape" of progress.
Before I dug deeper into the Law of One material, I spent years exploring psychology, and writing in a journal where I distilled ideas and personal themes, however my mind ended up arranging them as I went. It helped. (But all that work on the self over years was like the starter engine compared to the spiritual journey/rollercoaster afterwards.)
I can generally recommend efforts to write and explore themes in your own ways on your own, with the aim of making things clear to yourself (even if not clear at the start). Also, should the discussion turn that way, I know of a few books I could recommend on the general psychological area, though the focus of this community tends to be more immediately practical.