Navaratna-I was 12 years old 30 years ago so clearly was not moving out with my husband.
2008 I was still making slave wages living on the farm and starting my own business on the side. It sucked a55 both my husband and I had 3 jobs each, living accommodations I could write a book about they were not great lol but by 2013 we got our own little dumpy house that was structurally fine and started fixing it up. I’m not talking distance past here.
Also I do not believe it’s anyone’s right to be able to afford to live in the most sought after(supply/demand)(big cities) areas. That’s not where you start if you want to afford a place. That to me is a total cop out.
Even now I own a home but wouldn’t be able to afford rent in Toronto the closest big city to me.
No way to save money doing that except for the rich.
So guess what I wanted to own so after a decade plus of living in tiny places to save money we moved to a dumpster fire of a town and commuted. It’s what all generations have had to do that didn’t live with family, move to the cheaper outskirts. Then those crappy towns build up and property values go up and the next generation has to do the same if they don’t live with family.
Maybe in Europe one can afford to live in big cities from the get go without roommates... I wouldn’t know but in most of North America that has not been a possible for a long time.
Not trying to be argumentative but these are mental road blocks. If you can’t have a life mate or date till you move out, and you can’t move out unless it’s an impossibly expensive area then you have painted yourself into a corner.
My grandfather is dead but he was 100 a few years ago. When he was 20-ish he married and lived in a rented garage with his wife and daughter after the war. It’s not suddenly hard. Life is hard, it’s always been hard. If you put barriers of wealth up mentally before you feel you can look for a mate you are making it WAY worse.
Just don’t opt for shallow ass women.
Do you work? If so and you are trying to build a life I garuntee there is an equally struggling woman out there who would love a partner to struggle with.
I say this as a sort of older sister. Any woman who would write a man off because he isn’t financially set isn’t a woman worth having.
No offence we are brothers and sisters here.
It’s just not that impossible.
Finding the right one. Hard!
Being in a situation where you can date, not that hard.
Last year I had a conversation with a homeless man about UBI he whined that even $1400 a month tax free wouldn’t be enough to afford a place. I explained that most people can’t afford to live on their own, get roommates like most do to share expences.
It was a no go for him, he told me he already makes that pan handling but lives on the street. You could definitely rent a room in my town for $600-$700. That’s apparently not the way he wants to live. That was the last $20 I gave him.
My mom had renters in rooms most of my life, friends of mine bought tiny 2 bedroom homes but need to rent rooms out to afford it. Others wanted to rent big country homes so have several rooms rented out so they can afford it. There is no shame in shared expenses.
2008 I was still making slave wages living on the farm and starting my own business on the side. It sucked a55 both my husband and I had 3 jobs each, living accommodations I could write a book about they were not great lol but by 2013 we got our own little dumpy house that was structurally fine and started fixing it up. I’m not talking distance past here.
Also I do not believe it’s anyone’s right to be able to afford to live in the most sought after(supply/demand)(big cities) areas. That’s not where you start if you want to afford a place. That to me is a total cop out.
Even now I own a home but wouldn’t be able to afford rent in Toronto the closest big city to me.
No way to save money doing that except for the rich.
So guess what I wanted to own so after a decade plus of living in tiny places to save money we moved to a dumpster fire of a town and commuted. It’s what all generations have had to do that didn’t live with family, move to the cheaper outskirts. Then those crappy towns build up and property values go up and the next generation has to do the same if they don’t live with family.
Maybe in Europe one can afford to live in big cities from the get go without roommates... I wouldn’t know but in most of North America that has not been a possible for a long time.
Not trying to be argumentative but these are mental road blocks. If you can’t have a life mate or date till you move out, and you can’t move out unless it’s an impossibly expensive area then you have painted yourself into a corner.
My grandfather is dead but he was 100 a few years ago. When he was 20-ish he married and lived in a rented garage with his wife and daughter after the war. It’s not suddenly hard. Life is hard, it’s always been hard. If you put barriers of wealth up mentally before you feel you can look for a mate you are making it WAY worse.
Just don’t opt for shallow ass women.
Do you work? If so and you are trying to build a life I garuntee there is an equally struggling woman out there who would love a partner to struggle with.
I say this as a sort of older sister. Any woman who would write a man off because he isn’t financially set isn’t a woman worth having.
No offence we are brothers and sisters here.
It’s just not that impossible.
Finding the right one. Hard!
Being in a situation where you can date, not that hard.
Last year I had a conversation with a homeless man about UBI he whined that even $1400 a month tax free wouldn’t be enough to afford a place. I explained that most people can’t afford to live on their own, get roommates like most do to share expences.
It was a no go for him, he told me he already makes that pan handling but lives on the street. You could definitely rent a room in my town for $600-$700. That’s apparently not the way he wants to live. That was the last $20 I gave him.
My mom had renters in rooms most of my life, friends of mine bought tiny 2 bedroom homes but need to rent rooms out to afford it. Others wanted to rent big country homes so have several rooms rented out so they can afford it. There is no shame in shared expenses.