Can you love other selves but not like them?

[Jeremy]

From my experience, the key is not to figure out how to love someone when you don't like them. When doing so, it is forcing an intellectual perspective.

The key, and the only key in my opinion, is evolution of self. Concentrate on what the self needs for expansion and growth, such as, taking responsibility in every facet of life. This includes the consideration of all other-selves but in a general way, not a specific one where a particular relationship is at issue, because the focus is on you and how you relate to all things. 

Specific relationships can be rife with triggers and history. The acceptance needed for such a relationship would be acceptance of self. Accept that you are where you are at, and try to use Ra's healing exercise of dealing with valid emotions such as anger, by letting yourself feel but waiting until you are alone to process the feelings so as not to hurt another.

A good exercise is to loosen opinions. Rigidity causes stasis, and the idea is to move forward. What I do is whenever I am triggered into an emotional response, I look at myself. This changes the scenario from one of being a victim or being offended to one of taking responsibility and being the observer. This doesn't necessarily erase the hurt felt from a circumstance or other person, but it puts into a more balanced perspective. One great intellectual exercise for this is to take the opposite side in a debate and argue for it, thereby getting self out of an entrenched view.

In addition, it's important to disengage from the media and spend time in nature—it discharges a lot of pent-up emotional confusion. I think it's also important to keep your space clear (whether it's a house, apartment or room). By that I mean keep it uncluttered and clean. All things are connected, and a cluttered space can clutter your thoughts. I like the quote from the bible that says to be an empty vessel. Take care of all the physical things you can, because that is the easiest, and this will affect your mental and emotional state. By getting and keeping your physical world in order, it affects the ordering of your mental and spiritual worlds. This is reflected in the ordering of the tarot archetypes according to Ra, wherein the mind, body, spirit cards are grouped, as well as the pairing of certain cards such as the matrix and the potentiator.

All of that said, it's like living in quicksand here, and it's so easy to get pulled down in. Having no attachment to outcome paradoxically connects one to all things, as it releases control and encourages acceptance. But this is tricky, because there must also be a directed will to be in balance. It's great to intellectualize as this is bringing knowledge and evolution into conscious awareness, but then there must also be action/implementation, not just lip service to evolution. A good example is someone who reads book after book on spirituality, but doesn't actually do the work. 

The last part is especially poignant and pertinent to me on a personal level. I've been great at assisting others in their questions yet for the most part, I've admittedly failed at "walking the walk". Something I came to admit a while back. I actually read an amazing transcript a few minutes ago on the channeling forum about wisdom and arrogance which is exactly what I've been doing. My wisdom has always overshadowed my heart and in some respects, given me at times, a holier than thou mentality towards those who are more emotionally open and free so that's yet another aspect that I seek to improve. Thanks for the helpful words