female wanderers

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I make my comments here with bluntness because I've seen plenty of guys not understand it. Maybe a girl will be interested when they're young and unrealistic and interested in an equally unrealistic guy, but for anything long term...

If you don't have enough money to afford a place to live, what are you stuck with in a rich country?

Living with your mom? Hot
Living with your partner with roommates? Sounds terrible. No women want that.

Living in a vehicle? I make a joke sometimes that I've met girls that only date guys that live in their vans. I've seen it before, people so intent on defying paying rent that they go along with that. Those girls I promise won't stick around with those guys long term 99% of the time. Who wants to be 30+ like that? I met a very cool dude like 40 years old seemed like he had his vanlife together. Hanging out with him for too long was like watching a soap opera listening to him complaining about no women and little money. LOL

Options are very limited in a developed country and maybe there's some options like traveling work programs or the handful of communes that haven't completely failed but still want money for you to live in them.

You say young and unrealistic as if it’s fact that they are being unrealistic.

When my husband and I got together we rented a relatives basement. It was cheap but we were together. Little by little you make more, or save more and you get your own place. It’s not unreasonable.

Next we moved onto a farm where I worked for equally cheap rent. Saved a tiny bit more now we own a home but it took years of scraping by and it wasn’t at all unusual.

I know lots of stories of pretty financially set people getting together as young broke people and staying together and building a life little by little. You might be suprised to know that’s how all generations except the last few and including LOTS of the last few did it.

Living with roommates or family was the norm except in a few of the post ww2 generations.

So those 2 or 3 generations were actually the annonomoly and unrealistic.

I have friends in their 30s all renting a house as couples they are happy.
They are saving a bit at a time.
Ideally yeah they’d be settled in a house with 2 cars but this isn’t hollywood.

Living in cars is just a bad plan but two people squeaking by together, or sharing expenses as a group while they get their feet under them is actually a great way to save money and build a foundation.

so it’s not fact at all that people need to be able to be at the stage they don’t need roommates or family help. It’s a weird idea of the last few generations that money comes first. Stop watching the program, it’s put out by the same people lulling the masses to sleep.

No offence meant at all. You seem quite nice and have a focus on deeper things, but there are lots of people worldwide and including North America proving money need not come first.

I also I know I didn’t explain this my best. I have to run but wanted to reply so you knew I wasn’t ignoring you, or thinking you were fully wrong.

Yes we have to be willing to work but no you don’t have to be set and ready to do it all yourself to find love and someone to love you.

Working together from near nothing to build a life also shows they aren’t with you for your money. That’s great because as this pandemic is showing us money can be lost.