Loving without expectation of return

[Louisabell]

No matter how people dress/look, they're just people, and like all people, many are possessive. You don't tell people you love them if you're a grown man unless the circumstances are exactly right. Otherwise people get all tribal and dudes start chest thumping. Women have it a bit easier thinking of their love for everything and expressing it freely because they aren't assumed as having as much of an agenda. Guys I know would shake their heads at being reminded of the transient nature of everything or param chaitanya. 'What's your...point?" "That's gay/are you gay?" or some dismissive whatever.

It's a great concept and I see it and agree with it, but thinking people are going to think this way in huge numbers and not just irritate each other to death until fists start swinging over who is allowed to love whose woman or allowed to
hang out around whoever else cuz Gilberto is annoying [and unaesthetically pleasing as a middle aged overweight truck driver] ... is...hilarious. Call your love something else and maybe people will relate. Param chaitanya I think is a good word for this reason, there is no English equivalent.

Hi Navaratna, I wouldn't go around telling strange people that I love them, cause that would just be weird and awkward. For me, love is the sensation/realisation of the worth of an individual. In truth, every individual has infinite worth inherent in them, as they are a child of god.

All having infinite worth also means no-one has more worth than the other. Also means no-one can demand or is entitled to the other. So, the material effects are small, but the soul effects are humongous. I treat people with the worth they evidently have to the best of my ability. That's how I love people - quietly and purposefully.

Fortunately I have not been jealous in my adult life, that's not a lesson I need to learn right now, but sometimes I get caught up on what could have been if certain people had loved me back the way I wanted (and I don't mean romantically!). There is pain there.

Is that universal unconditional radiance or is that an agenda?  :idea:

If there was an agenda, it would be to be as honest with myself as possible in the pursuit of truth and higher love.