Maybe something that would help people feel this way would be to drop the idea of calling it love. Call it what you want, that radiant emanating positive illuminating force, but calling it love makes people get hung up on if they should profess their endless oceanic undying love toward strangers or the couple next door that is weirded out by the idea. Or straight up enemies.
reminds me of a meme that was once very popular about the flying spaghetti monster, about how if you just took the word 'God' in the bible and replaced it with 'flying spaghetti monster' it would be a much easier to discount whatever the Hell book of fairytales many people swear on as true if we did not have this silly cultural reverence for the word 'God'. 'You said god's name in vain? 'You call yourself a god?" How about I just TAUNT the fanciful flying spaghetti monster to strike me down if he is real. Lol.
I also think in these kinds of alternative spirituality groups, they are full of women because guys don't think of any of these ideas as reliable attitudes that they can hold in the 'real' world and still expect to be taken seriously. I know for sure there's a group I like that has been studied and the gender ratio is 65-35% 2 females to every male practitioner.
Many times that I've witnessed a reminder that hippie-ish people are just people...let's say there's a guy with a girlfriend, he doesn't want guys being friends with the girl and sharing all the love...no. The guy gets annoyed immediately that a guy wants to be friends at all with his girlfriend no matter how lovey hippie they are. Not always...but generally. Unless oh it's more girls in the group of course the guy has no issue. And hippie girls...they usually have boyfriends, so ok...how the hell does this work for humanity embracing all this love together. ..people's jealously and interpersonal junk gets in the way..of the only kind of people I can think of who try to market themselves as believers in this kind of attitude [outside of spiritualists groups] as having any kind of solid community.
What does it even all mean in terms of application is what most men would think. If you love everyone, next time your neighbor loses his job just invite him to live in your house rent free because LOVE. lol.
Also, people really, really seem to generally hate/dislike gays when there is hardly any violence at all in those kinds of gatherings--pride events/gay scenes. Those places are by no means perfect, people are trapped in their vanity-- but it is disturbing how much hatred gets directed towards that particular group of people who aren't necessarily thinking of it as param chaitanya.. but are on the 'free love' 'free space/expression/identity' level of thinking. Yeah for that they deserve so much hatred..lol. They definitely aren't drunkenly fighting each other, resulting in people getting knocked out dead like at a regular beerfest. It doesn't happen anywhere near as often.
No matter how people dress/look, they're just people, and like all people, many are possessive. You don't tell people you love them if you're a grown man unless the circumstances are exactly right. Otherwise people get all tribal and dudes start chest thumping. Women have it a bit easier thinking of their love for everything and expressing it freely because they aren't assumed as having as much of an agenda. Guys I know would shake their heads at being reminded of the transient nature of everything or param chaitanya. 'What's your...point?" "That's gay/are you gay?" or some dismissive whatever.
It's a great concept and I see it and agree with it, but thinking people are going to think this way in huge numbers and not just irritate each other to death until fists start swinging over who is allowed to love whose woman or allowed to
hang out around whoever else cuz Gilberto is annoying [and unaesthetically pleasing as a middle aged overweight truck driver] ... is...hilarious. Call your love something else and maybe people will relate. Param chaitanya I think is a good word for this reason, there is no English equivalent.
reminds me of a meme that was once very popular about the flying spaghetti monster, about how if you just took the word 'God' in the bible and replaced it with 'flying spaghetti monster' it would be a much easier to discount whatever the Hell book of fairytales many people swear on as true if we did not have this silly cultural reverence for the word 'God'. 'You said god's name in vain? 'You call yourself a god?" How about I just TAUNT the fanciful flying spaghetti monster to strike me down if he is real. Lol.
I also think in these kinds of alternative spirituality groups, they are full of women because guys don't think of any of these ideas as reliable attitudes that they can hold in the 'real' world and still expect to be taken seriously. I know for sure there's a group I like that has been studied and the gender ratio is 65-35% 2 females to every male practitioner.
Many times that I've witnessed a reminder that hippie-ish people are just people...let's say there's a guy with a girlfriend, he doesn't want guys being friends with the girl and sharing all the love...no. The guy gets annoyed immediately that a guy wants to be friends at all with his girlfriend no matter how lovey hippie they are. Not always...but generally. Unless oh it's more girls in the group of course the guy has no issue. And hippie girls...they usually have boyfriends, so ok...how the hell does this work for humanity embracing all this love together. ..people's jealously and interpersonal junk gets in the way..of the only kind of people I can think of who try to market themselves as believers in this kind of attitude [outside of spiritualists groups] as having any kind of solid community.
What does it even all mean in terms of application is what most men would think. If you love everyone, next time your neighbor loses his job just invite him to live in your house rent free because LOVE. lol.
Also, people really, really seem to generally hate/dislike gays when there is hardly any violence at all in those kinds of gatherings--pride events/gay scenes. Those places are by no means perfect, people are trapped in their vanity-- but it is disturbing how much hatred gets directed towards that particular group of people who aren't necessarily thinking of it as param chaitanya.. but are on the 'free love' 'free space/expression/identity' level of thinking. Yeah for that they deserve so much hatred..lol. They definitely aren't drunkenly fighting each other, resulting in people getting knocked out dead like at a regular beerfest. It doesn't happen anywhere near as often.
No matter how people dress/look, they're just people, and like all people, many are possessive. You don't tell people you love them if you're a grown man unless the circumstances are exactly right. Otherwise people get all tribal and dudes start chest thumping. Women have it a bit easier thinking of their love for everything and expressing it freely because they aren't assumed as having as much of an agenda. Guys I know would shake their heads at being reminded of the transient nature of everything or param chaitanya. 'What's your...point?" "That's gay/are you gay?" or some dismissive whatever.
It's a great concept and I see it and agree with it, but thinking people are going to think this way in huge numbers and not just irritate each other to death until fists start swinging over who is allowed to love whose woman or allowed to
hang out around whoever else cuz Gilberto is annoying [and unaesthetically pleasing as a middle aged overweight truck driver] ... is...hilarious. Call your love something else and maybe people will relate. Param chaitanya I think is a good word for this reason, there is no English equivalent.