Loving without expectation of return

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People pleasing is caused by a fawn response to fear (it is one of the four f's - flight, fight, freeze and fawn). It is intended to disarm the other by supplication. Only you truly know if you act from fear or love.

Love does not demand any deeds. It is unkind to allow a person to engage in abuse. The deepest parts of ourselves do not distinguish the self from other, so any abuse is also committed to the self.

I cannot seem to project love without at least an anticipation or hope that I will receive love back. I have received insight on all other questions, bar this one. I have no idea how it is done. My love is therefore coloured in this way and I am destined to be hurt by not being loved back by those people I love deeply.

Thoughts?

Hi Louisabell,

I don’t have any questions about my own source of loving regardless of another’s ability or need to do so. I know especially in the case mentioned above it was out of vast understanding of the other selves wounds and compassion. We all can only do or be what we are ready to do or be.

For others at this point the above has been extrapolated to the ALL.

As to how it’s done. It’s just happens.
I have been really working on all my catylist the last few years and the more I’m healed the less I need from others.

I could say why my beliefs let it happen but honestly I don’t think it has anything to do with conscious beliefs.

In the moment your subconscious acts. It chooses. So I guess if you want to get to that place you have to inform or heal the subconscious over time so it can determine at the next opportunity whether it will choose to love with or without or expectation.

I agree with Agua though, no rush. We are strongest in some ways and struggle in others, if this is a preference though setting intention with your subconscious will likely bring catylist into your path that will help.

Nice to see your name pop up on the forum.