Loving without expectation of return

[Louisabell]

I don't think you'll ever find peace if you're going to worry about the fact that people aren't perfectly the way you want them to be. I tell people that all the time. I do get what you mean about how it's a tit-for-tat world.

If someone gives you negativity they usually aren't worth having in your life, but then again it isn't always so easy if you can't live alone or need to go to work/family that are stuck in your life. You can do your best to minimize it.

if a person is a kind of person that solely cares about what they get from you, it's usually pretty obvious and they aren't the kind of person worth having around. Having real friends means that they enjoy your presence. Not just getting what they want from you. Trying to satisfy people by giving them things they want so that they tolerate hanging out with you is really not a way to live. it's just a way to wind up getting used and tossed aside.

That's what I think the generation needs to be told but then again, we live in a consumerist society. Of course the city council wants your business, that's the entire point of you being around in their eyes lol

Also, the entire concept of this community makes my mind go back to this clip. how your neighbors would respond to your love.

Lol. Thank you Navaratna. I agree with your insights.

However when Ra spoke about Carla learning the lesson of loving without expectation of return, it was in response to her upbringing. It's one thing to not expect love back from acquaintances and the like, it's quite another to love those very close to you in a way that does not look for a reciprocal. I think it is quite human to seek out mirrors for our loving nature.