What is polarity?

[Louisabell]

The central core of sts is separation, with the first separation being the separation from the Self.
Seperation from our Self occurs very early in our life due to trauma.
We ecperience trauma and because we cannot handle it we seperate from it and thus from our Self, from what we truly are.

I agree, I have found this to be true. A child can be nutured in goodness and socialised healthily and patiently, and the Self will emerge able bodied and effective in the world. The traumatised child is at worst very dissociated and feels nothing. His subconscious is full of vengence, and so he constructs a false self in order to move in the world. He performs his duties in the uncanny valley of mimicry. He becomes exceptionally good at controlling himself, and therefore can only relate to others through control - master/slave dynamics.

This is the dicotomous polarity of acceptance/authenticity/truth vs control/deception/shadow.

I see the power in becoming more and more the Self, but where is the spiritual power in the false self. What is the false self even? Does a total investment in it make it real?! And why is it called service to self, if it is a seperation to the Self? It appears to be more like the polarity of the service of others to the false self or SOOTSFS...

I cannot move forward until greater insight is found.

There are stages to attachment presented by Dr. Gordon Neufeld. I will quote them below. They relate to the rays.

The 6 Stages of Attachment

1. Proximity

An infant begins the journey of attachment to the parent or caregiver through Proximity by touch, contact and closeness.

-Red Ray; survival; immediate bodily needs;

2. Sameness

Around the age of two, a child adds Sameness. Their desire to be like us is an important element in their acquisition of language.

- Orange Ray; self-identity, relating to the other and self, body and verbal language


3. Belonging or Loyalty

Age 3 the child seeks to feel like they belong to their family and tribe.

- Yellow Ray; group consciousness and dynamics, contribution, roles, duties and privileges

4. Significance

Child seeks to be special to those he is attached to.

- Outer Courtyard of Green Ray; Am I safe to give my heart away?

5. Love

The child gives his/her heart away to those they are attached to.

- Green Ray

6. Being Known

And finally, the last stage — Being Known — is where if all has gone well, the child from six on up tells us their secrets.

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- Blue Ray: Communication of one's deepest truths

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So if STS is love of self, does that mean the STS entity does go through all those stages and beyond with only himself? Or to put it another way, what/who is he attached to, what is the motivation?