How do you heal the energy centers?

[EvolvingPhoenix]

Missed this. Great advice. Only problem is the therapist part. Good therapists are hard to come by. Therapists who don't really have a clue are a dime a dozen, especially the "connect you with a legalized drug dealer (AKA psychiatrist) and make up diagnoses to help decide which pills you need" variety.

I think it's really actually dangerous and irresponsible for people to tell others to get professional help. Rarely is that professional help actually helpful. Far more often, it is harmful.

I live in a different country with a different medical system, so I cannot really tell about how easy or not it is to find good therapy.
I am pretty sure however, that in most countries, there are good therapists.

I can only help with finding one in my country, but I am sure, there are other people here who can give tips in the US.

I would not judge therapy in general by one bad experience.

However, you say „rarely is that help helpful, far more often its harmful“ based on, as far as I know, one therapist you have been to?
Hmm...

What I can tell from my experience, manly from my own healing process, there are issues and stages that are, although in theory possible, actually impossible to get through alone (for the vast majority of people).
Once you healed those, you will understand why...

One therapist? No. Definitely not based on ONE therapist. Where did you get THAT from? And I'm not the ONLY one. I have heard this from numerous others as well. Yes, there ARE good therapists, but not that many, sadly.

And the fact is, you get who a) lives within a distance you can get to and b) you can afford.

Nonetheless, the therapist I currently have is alright, although not that great. Same with the one before him. I am also getting the help of a behavioural specialist.

I'm getting the help I can. What I'm saying is this: People often treat therapy like it's this big helpful thing and more often than not from what I've observed, it's not. And I don't blame people who give up on getting a good therapist and who feel they can do better on their own, because I have seen what they're talking about. Even the therapists that are alright are JUST alright and not particularly all that helpful. Mind you, this typically costs money a lot of people can't afford. Only reason we still go to my therapist is because I got vocational rehabilitation to pay for his services. Otherwise, not worth the money and neither was the last guy.

And that was after doing our homework and learning who to avoid, and after screening for the different modalities utilized. Sadly, the few that were particularly promising wouldn't take dad's insurance.

Not "One bad experience" Agua. Just... experience. And the experiences of many others. I would go so far as to say, the people who I have seen judge the harshest for NOT wanting to get "professional help" are the ones who base their understandings off of one GOOD therapist and do not realize how rare that therapist is.

I am sure it is necessary to heal certain issues with others, but therapy is not always the way to do it.

I'm not against trying to find SOME way to not go it alone, but therapy isn't always the answer, and I'm a little sick of it being treated like this holy grail of emotional/psychological healing, like just getting a therapist will solve the problem and like all therapy is GOOD therapy and as if factors like time, distance and money (especially money) aren't all important factors as well.

Good therapy exists, surely. But it's rare. And that doesn't take distance and cost into account.

Let me ask you something, Agua...

Assuming my therapist is not all that helpful, who do I look to for whatever kind of connection will help me through this and WHAT kind of connection(s) will help me heal?

What do I do, who/what kind of person/people should I be looking for to do it with and how would you recommend I go about doing that?

I am SURE you are right about this not being something to do alone, but who should I be going through this with, what do I look for to know they're the person/people to do it with, how do I meet them and what do I do with them in the first place?

On one hand, it feels like doing this alone is my only option. On the other, I recognize that is probably just bullshit victim talk. Yet, I don't know how to NOT do this alone. So how DO I not do this alone? I'm not meaning to trash ALL of therapy, but it doesn't seem to be helping ME much and I'm doing the best I can on that front.