The allure of cynicism

[Diana]

One of my blockages in polarizing positively is that being all sweet and filled with love and light doesn't feel 'cool.' At times, it feels corny, even pathetic. It feels like being some hippie cliche. This might sound silly, but it's something part of me honestly feels that I want to balance.

On a superficial level, polarizing positively feels at odds with the cynicism and nihilism that the last few generations tend to associate with hipness, world weariness, transcendence. This might seem shallow, but it does make me feel more alienated from most other 20-somethings.

On another level, maybe this aversion to feeling overly gushy in embodying positivity is a distorted attempt to balance compassion with wisdom. Balancing the 'gullibility and naivete' that Ra described as being 'characteristic of those who love wholeheartedly' might be important work for some entities. That naivete might go hand in hand with that gushiness.

Do any of you ever feel like all the positivity seems too fluffy and overly sentimental? How do you get over this?

As I see it, acceptance doesn't come because you gush love and rainbows and try to stay positive all the time (or do so because of a belief system); acceptance comes of accepting what is and working from there. The first thing involved with true acceptance is to think for yourself, from which follows having true feelings. Many so-called positive people are just doing what they think they should be doing. Cynicism is natural given the environment we must work within, but I agree that cynicism is a sign of imbalance too.

I struggle with this as well. I am not a follower, so I always think things out for myself; I don't follow anyone else's views, not even my own, as I know my awareness will evolve. I accept this reality because it is what it is. But there is a way to accept yet not agree with, or accept and not align with, a system. An integral part of this is not caring what anyone else thinks (and by this I mean not just following someone or something else's thinking; and I don't mean not paying attention to catalyst), which derives from being your own authority. From there, develop detachment; in other words, have no attachment to outcome, but still do whatever you are here to do.