The allure of cynicism

[Foha]

Positivity and loving everyone isn't always rainbows and sunshine.
I hear marriage and relationships take real work. I say I hear because I can't say from my current human experience.
Serving others even when knowing they are taking it for granted can be disheartening.
Giving unconditional love can be grueling and difficult sometimes. It can take a lot out of me sometimes, anyway.

For me, being positive isn't always assuming the best in someone. Instead, sometimes its knowing they very likely are broken and flawed in horrible ways and relating to them at some level.
Instead of disappointment, I try to find reasons why I can place my faith that they will overcome that blockage to who they can truly be.
To see someone being petty and to say "Aha, I see myself in that person" is a very humbling experience. To know that deep down I could have been that petty, or I very well could find myself that petty in the near future due to circumstances I can't foresee.
To extend a hand to a cruel one can be difficult and trying -- but ultimately I have always found it to be rewarding in some way. For me, or for them, considering the both of us there is always a net gain.