Where is the balance between Control and Acceptance?

[Black Dragon]

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25.5 Questioner: You spoke of an Orion Confederation and a battle being fought between the Confederation and the Orion Confederation. Is it possible to convey any concept of how this battle is fought?
Ra: I am Ra. Picture, if you will, your mind. Picture it then in total unity with all other minds of your society. You are then single-minded and that which is a weak electrical charge in your physical illusion is now an enormously powerful machine whereby thoughts may be projected as things.
In this endeavor the Orion group charges or attacks the Confederation arms with light. The result, a stand-off, as you would call it, both energies being somewhat depleted by this and needing to regroup; the negative depleted through failure to manipulate, the positive depleted through failure to accept that which is given.
25.6 Questioner: Could you amplify the meaning of what you said by “failure to accept that which is given?”
Ra: I am Ra. At the level of time/space at which this takes place in the form of what you may call thought-war, the most accepting and loving energy would be to so love those who wished to manipulate that those entities were surrounded, engulfed, and transformed by positive energies.
This, however, being a battle of equals, the Confederation is aware that it cannot, on equal footing, allow itself to be manipulated in order to remain purely positive, for then though pure it would not be of any consequence, having been placed by the so-called powers of darkness under the heel, as you may say.
It is thus that those who deal with this thought-war must be defensive rather than accepting in order to preserve their usefulness in service to others. Thusly, they cannot accept fully what the Orion Confederation wishes to give, that being enslavement. Thusly, some polarity is lost due to this friction and both sides, if you will, must then regroup.
It has not been fruitful for either side. The only consequence which has been helpful is a balancing of the energies available to this planet so that these energies have less necessity to be balanced in this space/time, thus lessening the chances of planetary annihilation.



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46.9 Questioner: Certainly.
Ra: The entity polarizing positively perceives the anger. This entity, if using this catalyst mentally, blesses and loves this anger in itself. It then intensifies this anger consciously in mind alone until the folly of this red-ray energy is perceived not as folly in itself but as energy subject to spiritual entropy due to the randomness of energy being used.
Positive orientation then provides the will and faith to continue this mentally intense experience of letting the anger be understood, accepted, and integrated with the mind/body/spirit complex. The other-self which is the object of anger is thus transformed into an object of acceptance, understanding, and accommodation, all being reintegrated using the great energy which anger began.
The negatively oriented mind/body/spirit complex will use this anger in a similarly conscious fashion, refusing to accept the undirected or random energy of anger and instead, through will and faith, funneling this energy into a practical means of venting the negative aspect of this emotion so as to obtain control over other-self, or otherwise control the situation causing anger.
Control is the key to negatively polarized use of catalyst. Acceptance is the key to positively polarized use of catalyst.Between these polarities lies the potential for this random and undirected energy creating a bodily complex analog of what you call the cancerous growth of tissue.

This being in 4th density I imagine the amount of control needed here in 3rd Density is far greater in order to not be enslaved. How much Control is good and at what point does it become dangerous? How do I know how if I control too much?


It is my greatest fear to be enslaved/hurt by the negative entities or other 3rd Density beings who are on the STS-path or simply stuck in the sinkhole. I do not want to suffer by their hands. I do not want myself or anyone I love to suffer. I could never accept that.
Is that bad? Does it make me a bad person? I've read some people say that you should accept that too but to me that is simply giving your own power away to the beings of darkness and making a disservice to other positive beings.


I read somewhere that not all worlds are fueled by suffering. I forgot where but it gave me an idea of the difference between catalyst and suffering. I do not see them as the same thing and I believe a lot of people here have simply forgotten there are other ways of advancing your soul without suffering.

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Kudos on an excellent thread and post. This is an issue of huge importance to me, and part of my own seeking, work, and issues at the moment. You have expressed your views and concerns very eloquently here, and cited relevant pieces of the material. Stellar work. "How to be STO without being a pushover" is a huge quandary indeed, and a hot topic and point of contention in some discussions here. I personally feel that there's no perfect answer to this question, as there is a lot of paradox involved. Finding a workable answer involves accepting and embracing a little paradox and loosening a bit what I would consider to be purist and dogmatic views on STO and polarity in general. The answer will be a bit different for everyone, because there is no one-size-fits all answer to this question. Why? Because not every STO being will express or define the nuances of STO in exactly the same way, and none will express it in a 100% pure, unbiased, and perfect manner, especially in 3d. I have heard either Q'uo or Hatton specifically say something along the lines of "when push comes to shove, shove must push back, sadly we say...". If one is in a situation in which they must push back, I wouldsay to do it with courage and love for your own principles and who and what you are defending, rather than with hate for your "opponent"(easier said than done, for sure... ...)

The second part of the issue here is where you've said something very true and very profound. There is a difference between productive adversity and excess/arbitrary suffering. While some amount of suffering is and can be legitimate catalyst, I have stated my opinion before that there's just was too much excess suffering in the current system of polarity, and just like the other extreme(easy and no veil), is inefficient for growth and harvests. I believe the universe is in the process of a shift to resolve this a bit, and get the "porridge just right", where it once was too cold, and now is too hot. There is on this planet, as you have said, such an intense and obsessive occupation with suffering. It seems other forms of catalyst, such as joy, excitement, and more positive things, are sort of being invalidated and ignored, or as you have said forgotten, by both a lot of humans and a lot of other entities associated with out planet and history. This is part of what makes my shadow side "hulk out" sometimes.


Many humans and many of the other beings in our past and probably some in the present, including in my estimation what you'd call "solar guardians", are in this cynical funk where they are totally obsessed and focused on suffering and invalidating of the importance or usefulness things like fun, excitement, joy, innocence, a childlike sense of wonder...and are in sort of this boot camp/ school-marm/nun smacking you with a ruler sort of mode of thinking and being right now. It's getting quite heavy and toxic, and I think it's causing some beings, human and otherwise, who are STO to actually be pretty mean and mechanistic. Luckily, there's some fresh faces as far as contact that are here and many more on their way with new, more evolved perspectives to shake things up and help those ones and all of us get past the funk. The distorted STO ones are just about ready and willing to start changing their tune, but certain mid 6d STS beings who feed on this excess misery to sort of preserve themselves at mid 6d ( indefinitely without degrading to spiritual entropy or having to repolarize and start from 3d again) are quite salty that their food source will dry up, and of course are doing everything they can to throw a wrench in the works, though they are a lot more impotent than they make it appear.

Don't sweat it too much, my dude. I have been, and it's done me no good. s***'s getting done. I mean you and me are obviously part of this process, we came here to work our own s*** out but also to present and discuss these concerns and topics, and help bring in the new energies and perspectives. We and many others are the incarnate, human portion of this effort, they "air dropped" our asses on this problem so we could get to addressing it, and we are.